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Reasons Why I Think Men Won't Last With Me I don't know why I'm writing this. Actually, I have a few ideas about what to write but my brain won't cooperate and so I need to maneuver and find something else. As you all know, I was a little bit broken recently due to the same issue: loove. I can't even spell it right as I don't even know what that word is. I just knew it starts with the letter L and ends with E, and only the lucky ones will see its true beauty.
And as I think of this L--E word, I suddenly remembered what my friend's father used to tell me before when I was still in high school. He said, *"You'd be really pretty if you weren't born that way. Boys would be head over heels for you if you were just the same as others."* I understood completely what he was trying to say. However, I just acted dumb and smiled like how I usually reacted when people started telling me something that involved my physical disability. And then just recently, as I have said, I got a little heartbroken and the thoughts went on and on again at the back of my head. What if I was really born different, would have I found my missing piece already? Would I find my knight and shining armor by now and live happily ever after with our own little kids? But as they say, it's either you accept the sad truth or live with lies. The choice is yours to make and only you can decide. After a few moments of my "me time," I then realized why men couldn't just stay with me even for just a little while. Men like someone they can hang out with Men are mostly adventurous. So it is no surprise that they also want someone who can meet their expectations. Unfortunately, I am far from that, and I guess that explains why they don't last. Even a little hiking would give me so much discomfort. So if simple hiking would hurt me, what good could I bring into a relationship? This is probably one of the reasons why they quit on me. They won't be able to go to the beach with me, go for a jog, ride a bike, play in the rain, run till we run out of breathe, chase each other like we're some kind of kids, and a lot more I guess. Men want someone presentable I have met a few guys online. Most of them are friends from friends. Before meeting up, they would tell me how pretty I was even after knowing my true self. Some of them would ask for a meetup and after a few times of them persuading me, I ended up saying yes. The moment they saw me, I could see how disappointed they were in me. Even if they were trying to be cool, they couldn't hide their true reaction. The good thing is, they never said a thing. But as soon as we parted ways, I knew that was the end. I may look pretty in your eyes, but the face is never enough for most men. No offense to our male readers. But most of them want to be with a total package before they could even consider you a plus. I guess those guys I was in loved with before thought they could learn to like me but in the end, they realized it wasn't worth it. Men want someone interesting I don't know the definition of interesting for most men, but I do know I'm a boring one. I think even at this part, I suck big time. I'm an introvert. I don't even play online games, which some men are into. The only thing I'm good at is loving someone with all my heart even if that means I have to break mine and suffer in the end.
*Closing thoughts* I guess these 3 are the main reasons why they can't seem to stay longer. I'm sure there are more other reasons but let's just focused on the obvious ones. I don't know why this occurred to me right now. I guess I'm being emotional because I'm going to celebrate my birthday soon. This article has been checked **for** plagiarism using PlagiarismDetector.Net.
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Aww! Ate keri lang ba i-ask anong disability yun? Don't be pity on yourself Ate. right man comes. Yung tipong hindi mo na kailangan maghanap pa. I believe in that <3
Sorry sa article ko. Ganito siguro feeling ng nagkakaedad na. Sensitive na masyado. I was born without my right leg. :) Okay naman ako pero me times lang talaga na nagiging madrama ako sa buhay.
Payts ra na ate! Pirmi lang hunahunaa nga blessed gihapon ka kesa sa uban nga nalisod jud kaayo. Though usahay bisan unsa nga comfort words amung isulti in the end ikaw ra gihapon magdala ana. Pero I know keri na nimo ate! <3
Keribels ra ni naku. This is just part of those "sad days" na dali ra marecover. Yes, you're right. I'm still more than blessed because I only worry about this stuff and not health or family issues. :) Thank God mao ra ni akong problema na dako. :) Salamat, dzai.
Nooo. What your friend's father said was very cruel. Some people just don't realize how heavily their words affect others. If a person focuses only on physical appearances, they don't deserve you. You don't need that shallowness in your life, bosslady. Hugs.
I don't know. I don't find it cruel, to be honest. But ewan and thank you for the free hugs. :)
You just made my eye wet, you don't have a disability and are the perfect man for you would come someday. I wish we were closer, I would have shown you what true love really means. I am not bluffing because I do imagine some things. What if after marriage, the woman I love got involved in an accident, and it affected her beauty, would I have let her go? Don't think less about yourself, the person who truly appreciates you would find you someday. Remember you have someone who loves you to the heart here in Nigeria and I am serious about it. 💖💖💖💖💖
Thank you for always being my friend, George. You've been so good to me and you always cheer me up when things like this happen. Sorry for my drama though. I just.. I guess I'm just getting old and sensitive. Lol. :)
I understand how you feel, don't think less of yourself. The right man will come and you will have a beautiful family and kids as pretty as you are. You will remember me when it eventually happens.
Aww. :) Thank you. I'm feeling better now. Sorry about the article. I'm just being melodramatic sometimes, but I'm 100% okay now. :) THank you.
You have the most important thing, which is to love sincerely, I know that it may sound the most cliché, and maybe it is, the only thing that has happened is that you have not found the right person. I tell you that I was the object of ridicule at school and at school, the children always made fun of my appearance, they picked up stones and threw them at me when I entered school, they gave me nicknames, they made fun of me, they made me suffer a lot, it destroyed my self esteem. Over time, inadvertently and unexpectedly, someone noticed me (I thought another one). We are currently about to meet 6 years of relationship. I have considered myself a very boring person, until the person who shares afternoons with me reading arrived, he knows that I cannot run because I suffer from heart problems, but I can tell him about the book I am reading :) Do not feel less, first, love yourself a lot, you do not need a boy to feel love, and when that right person arrives, you will be able to share your love and your joy with that person and receive the same.
I don't actually. I mean I love myself. I learned this a few years ago. I learned to focus on the bright side over stuff like this. I just don't know why I suddenly feel this way. I guess this is a sign of aging. You become sensitive. Anyway, thank you for sharing your story.
It is normal to have these lows, the important thing is to overcome them. Take care of yourself.
Thank you and yes, I'm okay now. Thanks for the advice. :)
You are still one of the most fortunate person on earth because you know how to love sincerely with all your heart that other people cannot. Giving you my virtual hugs.....
Aww. Thank you. You're right, I'm still more than fortunate because I have folks that value my worth. Anyway, thanks for being for the virtual hugs. Much appreciated.
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Aww. :( You've just made me cry. I hate you! But thank you, George, for always being a good friend and ready to save me during my dark times. No words can express how much I'm so grateful to have a friend like you. Hugs.
Keep going with a clean mindset one day you will come across your type of man that will love you and take you for whom you are, never stop praying one things will turn out good. And I strongly believe you are going to smile ☺ at last.
Thank you for the advice. Yes, I have a feeling that I'm going to have a big smile one day. :) I'm actually smiling right now. I feel good, to be honest. Thanks to all of you who are there to cheer me up.
I wish you a happy birthday in advance. But I'd like to know about this disability. Is it something you can share? But irrespective of what you're going through I want you to know that the right person will come soon. Someone who wouldn't see your disability but will see the real beauty in you. Someone that will understand you and love you for who you are. I sincerely wish we could speak a bit privately. I'd really appreciate.
My disability is never a secret here. Actually, I've written a few times about it. I was born without my right leg. I'm not sad about it because I know God has a reason for this. And thank you for your kind words. Yes, I know one day, God will send someone for me at the right time, of course.
Another year older is in the horizon and you are reflecting. I couldn't imagine anything more boring than being the same as everyone else. You are not that, and are way more interesting than you give yourself credit for. L E works in mysterious ways, who knows what will happen, but you are a wonderful interesting young lady , a wee star and an inspiration to many , many people, don't forget that.
Thank you, Ed. You've been one of the few who keep reminding me that and for that, thank you. I think I should start bothering you again. Lol. I miss talking to you though.
There are more important reason why they don't stay 🙂 It's because you don't deserve them and they don't deserve you, your time and your love 🙂 co'z you deserve more than what you think you deserve 🙂 One day that special someone will come to you, without you looking for him. True love will come at the right time and at the right place.
One day.. Kaya while waiting, I'll just focus on earning more BCH. Hehe. Thank you, sis. I'm okay na ngayon. Salamat sa inyong lahat. Tinupak lang talaga ako. Ewan ko ba.
I think men also want women that can support them when they are down in all aspects which include financially, mentally and so on even spiritually
True. I did support them in those aspects but.. Oh well. I'm okay now. I'm no longer sad. Thanks to all of you for being there.
Don't think any negativities sis. God has a purpose why it happens because there is someone who destined to you na mamahalin ka ng buong buo. Papasayahin ka araw araw. The one who always there to support you. There is perfect time for you sis. God set it. Ingat ka lagi sis..🙏
People in general, men and women equal, should stop considering just the 'envelope'! Like presents, you receive something beautifully packed but the present itself is a crap! Love... Too many people say this word without even understand what it really means hun! Love has no shape, no expectations, no boundaries...! Love should just explode in one's heart like a bomb and just for what the other person makes you feel! So hun don't think about how your body is, the main important, crucial, amazing thing is you, ❤️ and soul! Love you 🥰
I believe the right person will come when it's right time so just put your mind at rest and be a strong person that you are
Those 3 might be part of the reasons but you missed the most important part. They don't deserve you. From the little I've known you- i can say you are a wonderful person. Disability or not you are still the bmjc98 i know. I'm sure you've gotten over it. This piece is just a brief moment thing. But be rest assured MJ that i understand you. I'm short sighted and use glasses in class. Back in high school I was given names even by my teachers and some times it gets embarrassing when it is done in public. But i know who i am and know for sure that -they are the ones that need to check on themselves not me.
Wow! You are incredible writer. I really like how you write and I'm able to actually feel connected to your experience. I'm not going to assume that I truly know you as a person but I've seen, read and felt how you write so I can say that reading this, they really don't deserve you. If they can't see, accept and love you for who you really are then they are not deserving of you. You're amazing, of course you know that and that's why I can say it. You're really amazing. Thanks for sharing.
It's better that you will not settle with men who have look at you differently, so you won't be a crying lady in the end,I hope that there is someone who will love and accept you completely.My mentor once told me,,that as a lady we should pray for the right guy, not just the one you like but the one that is prepared for you.God knows your desire.
Out of all the words you wrote, this is the most important line in them The only thing I'm good at is loving someone with all my heart even if that means I have to break mine and suffer in the end. And that's the reason you will always come out a winner at the end. Sacrificial love is an endless Love. May God bless your beautiful soul.
Ate, it doesn't matter kung may disability ka o wala, kung mayaman ka o hindi at kung may kaya ka o wala. Wag mo iisipin na if ever naging born different ka na kesyo baka mahanap mo yung missing pieces mo, di natin alam baka bigla mo matagpuan yung oara sayo. Nakakalungkot kase sa panahon ngayon ktsura ang mahalaga, karamihan sakanila gusto perpekto gf nila. Like naka all in on na talaga, parehas tayo ate e, ako ku g iiwan ako sige lang. Diko ipaglalaban ung taong aalisbsa tabi ko, unexpected nga na halos kaugali ko tong jowa ko ngayon. Siya rin nagsasabi palagi na kahit daw may kapansanan ako o wala, mataba man daw o hindi di naman daw sya tumitingin sa panlabas, panloon daw mahalaga sakankya. Ayun lang pinagkaiba, di sya totoong lalake hehehehe. Proud parin ako dun atleast may tumanggap sakin, kaya ate laban lang💕 soon matatagpuan monrin yung para sayo, di man ngayon pero in God's time 💓
I know it hurts you that much, but dont stop loving. Thats the consequence of being true inlove. But also always remember this, its not you who lost it but them. Keep on loving dear I know someday there's this guy who will love you the way you love them, and maybe much more than you do. :-)
Those 3 things maybe the reasons but I believe that the main reason is "that kind of man is not worth it for you". You deserve the best. It doesn't matter if you have a disability or not ,because a real man doesn't used that as an excuse . A real man will love you the way you are and the way you deserves. In God's perfect timing, I believe that you will find a man for you.☺️
I don't know but I felt sad reading this, I can feel you wanted to build your own family already wanted to have a man that will accept you for who you are but sadly, you didn't found any yet. I hope you'll still find your missing piece, but if fate will not allow which I don't hope for that as I want you to be happy, still I hope you'll embrace and accept yourself, be happy although it's easier said than done but self love is healing. May God bless the desire of your heart :))
There's nothing wrong with us and maybe God is preparing the right man for you that will accept you for whoever you are. Cheer up po, we are beautiful and wonderful. If others dont see that then let them be, were not here to please them. Just continue to be you. You are lovable ❤️
Ok lang po yan. Don't stress yourself too much. Dadating din yung lalaki na para sa inyo. Kahit ano pa ang sa tingin niyo na problema sa sarili mo kapag siya na talaga ang para sayo tatanggapin ka niya ng buong buo.
Ate, yung sa three reasons na binigay mo, wala ako ni isang traits dun. :)..Hindi ako adventorous, hindi din ako palaayus, at boring din ako kasama dahil same tayo, introvert person din ako. Pero alam mo bang bago kami nagpakasal, almost 8 yrs kaming BF/GF ni hubby ko :).. Tiwala lang po, meron at meron na tatanggap sa atin kung ano man tayo. Hindi lahat ng lalaki ay katulad ng mga sinabi mo po :)
Ang harsh naman ng friend ng tatay mo sis, napakainsensitive! Don't mind them, you are beautiful as you are. And you're much better pa nga kesa sa iba na puro ganda lang pero walang ambag sa lipunan. So, chair up sis😂. I hope you get the humor sa word "chair"😂
I feel you on this, my friend but trust me, men are different too. As much as some have high expectations, there are some with modest expectations too. Like me, I fall in love with the mind before I can appreciate the body. It's all about what each person wants but I totally understand your points. Too many movies has messed with so many minds... They can't differentiate between fantasy and real life.
Im sure you will find the right one that will see through your soul.
You are a wonderful and inspiring person. And at some point, someone who values you for who you are will appear. Love is not easy, but when the time comes, it will show.
Im very sure you madam you will find the man who will accept you as a person, no buts and ifs. May kawork ako dati madam her husband is not totally(sorry po) and her parents is ndi tlga boto dun sa husband nya, lalaki pa un madam na breadwinner ng family diba pero wla silang nagawa kasi ung ang mahal ng anak nila, ayos naman sila ngaun, kaya alam ko po makakahanap ka din nung para sayo at kaya kng ipaglaban kahit kanino. Fight lng madam makikita mo din ung para sayo
I am so sorry that you have to feel this things. You don't need any man's validation. You are worth it and amazing just the way you are. I am sorry that you need to feel that something is wrong with you. Nothing is wrong with you and I know that someday, someone out there will see how precious you are ma'am.
Soon, you'll find a man na tatanggapin lahat ng kung ano ka at meron ka. Yong magbibigay sayo ng importansya at di ka iiwan kahit may madiskubre man sila sayong kakaiba. Hindi mo makikita pero soon, for sure may isang taong titingin sayo ng puno ng pagmamahal ang mata at tanging ikaw lang ang nakikita katulad ng mga bulaklak na sa kanilang mata'y napaka ganda. Sa ngayon, mas mahalin mo muna ang sarili mo habang di pa sya dumadating. Para di ka pinaghaharian ng lungkot at kung anomang isipin. Ako, diko nalang iniisip yang mga yan kasi paramg mas nakaka depress. Nagtatalo kasi ang puso at isip ko kung maghahanap ba ako ng lalaki o magsstay dito sa tabi, masaya pa rin kahit walang lalaki.
If there is someone out there that is truly meant for you, he will find his way to you. And he will love and appreciate you for who and what you are, regardless of disabilities or limitations. You may not be able to frolic under the rain, but a man who adores who will carry you and walk with you under the rain. That person who is for you will see you not just with his eyes, but more importantly, with his heart.
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