It’s common among teenage boys and girls to misunderstand friendship for love. There is a wide gap between being a guy’s friend and being his lover friend. This misinterpretation has made a lot of people hurt themselves and some go to the extent of committing suicide. I think every friendship must first have its definition and standard needs to be set so that no one will take the other for granted or lead the other into thinking of something else.
I was going through my social media account when I saw a lady who didn’t eventually get marry to the guy every one of us back then in school thought she will get married to. This happens about 8 years ago and we all departed and only contact one another once in a while or if we stumble at each other either on the road or on our various social media platforms.
The guy I’m about to talk about is named Bayo. he was my roommate right from year one in the school hostel. I’m aware of his movements and activities within the school. When we were admitted into the faculty of Engineering where I did study civil and natural resources engineering, Bayo was given admission to Environmental faculty where he is studying Building as a course on its own. We are a bit interwoven so I do go to his department for some academic material.
During year one of our registration, he met a newly admitted Girl called Bimpe, she was admitted to study architecture. Bimpe was late to start her registration so she needed someone to put her through, luckily it was my roomie she walked to, he was happy to help her and she too appreciated all he did. The registration led to beginning of their friendship, another factor was that they are both in the same faculty. He will have to see her to class in the morning, check on her during break and see her off to her hostel before returning to his- every day. With the closeness and monitoring, everyone was already thinking they were dating. This was our mindset and we keep asking him how far, all he tells us is that he dating her, and we believed him. The closeness didn’t allow any other guy to trespass or move closer to Bimpe.
Days after days, month after month, and years went by their friendship kept waxing stronger. One day we were all chatting about our relationship life with our girlfriend. That was when Bayo open up that he doesn’t have the courage to woo Bimpe that they are just mutual friends according to her. We all laugh at him and everyone began to make fun of him as an impotent man. So he decided within himself to take a step but he took the wrong one.
He decided to take a bold step by asking her out at the faculty dinner. Everyone dressed beautifully and Bimpe s not left out. Bayo picked his choicest cloth and we went with him to give him back up and the courage that he needs. We kept pushing him to walk up to her but he refused. He decided to take a little alcohol to make him bold.
He kept on gulping down cups of gin and other mixtures. We asked him to stop but he continued. Finally, he walked up to Bimpe and started talking to her. I don’t know what he said to her but the next thing we saw was him trying to kiss Everyone instead of kissing, he vomited on her.
The embarrassment was much. We all left the hall disgrace and ashamed because of what transpired right in front on so many people. The next day he was to a shame to talk to her.
And that was how the friendship ended. Today I saw the notification that Bimpe got married and my friend Bayo is also happily married. Probably things would have been different if had made intentions known from inception.
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