#19th
april 20,2022

                         10:14pm

Being single doesn't neccessarily mean you're available.Sometimes you have to put uo a sign that says,"Do not disturb"on your hear.

-Anonymous

In a couples-crazed world,singles are often perceived as misfits and virtual outcasts.Many people think that something is wrong with you, that your personality is maladjusted, when you are still single. There is something called the imaginary magic age, such as 18 or 21, that when you step into this age, you have to have nang significant other.If we follow this logic, dapat daw na by the age of 25, either may engagement/wedding ring or you are taking care of your baby.In showbiz, when you are in your thirties, you can play mother roles. Because women have a biological clock, there is more pressure on them to have a boyfriend. There is an inverse relationship because the age of the woman to their prospects will be noticed by the guys, who prefer to date someone younger than them.

Let us accept the fact that not all singles can marry, The lord gave the example of the lives of the "EUNUCH" .They failed to marry either due to personal choice or unforeseen circumstances.As Matthew 19: 11-12 (NIV) reveals."Not everyone can accept this word,but only those to whom it has been given.For there are eunuchs who were born that way,and there are eunuchs who have made eunuchs by others.Abd there are those whi choose to live like eunuch for the sake of the kingdom of heaven.The one who can accept this should accept it".

"Eunuchs" (or "bating" in Filipino) are servants in the kingdom. In particular, they serve in the rooms or courts of the queen and princess. Eunuchs are paid more than other workers. They cannot get married. because they do not have the ability to have children. They go through castration (Captivity) so as not to be a threat to the king in case they are tempted to have sexual affairs with the queen. In ancient Chinese dynasties, castration was used to punish slaves or prisoners of war. .

Likewise, there are also those who prefer to be "spiritual eunuchs" to serve God. This includes monks, nuns and priests. This includes Pablo who decided to remain single because of his ministry. He considered singleness as a high calling. he could better fulfill what the Lord asked him to do as a missionary in different countries. He poured his time into serving the Lord because he had no family to think about and take care of.

Presenting The singles

The Huwag na Muna squad

• They are really not qualified to enter into a relationship because they are not yet in the right season of their lives. they need to prioritize education to find a good job. They will only be distracted by a romantic relationship so don't do it first.

The Besides, I'm a breadwinner or I'm not ready yet

• With so much to do and responsibilities in life, they decided to delay the relationship or marriage. This includes those who work and support their family. Others want to enjoy single life first.They enjoy being single while others dream of having an established career.They wait until the right one comes along.

The over Busy Cluster

• They have no time for romantic endeavors.They are simply too busy to be in love.They work all day and coming home will just sleep.And since work is until the weekend, there is no time for socializing.And if there is invited to date, they prefer to go home and rest because of extreme fatigue and stress at work.

The high Value Group

• They have high standards for their future partner. These are the delicate ones. Because they have a high salary, have a lifestyle like the rich and famous, and can afford to have a family anytime, they want a partner who is equal to their "value".They worked hard to establish a career and they will not easily give it up for a relationship that is not worth it.

The there is really no circle

• for women, not because they want to be single but because they have not yet found anything captured in their heart. They also think that all eligible men have been taken. Its counterpart to men is the "The always Basted" clan .Bagsak sila sa all attempts to get the sweet "YES" of the women they dated.Kaya others are discouraged to flirt and gradually accepted to be "Soltero" (bechelor) for life.

The love hurts Society

• They are the ones who are very careful to give their heart. They have had bitter experiences in the relationship. Some still suffer from loneliness and grief due to a break-up or loss of a loved one. Or they are affected by a bad experience loved by their friends or loved ones.They need intense emotional rehabilitation.only they know when they will be inlove again.

The last trip/Chance passenger clan

• They are on the road to spinsterhood/Bachelordom. They are past the calendar so they are in a hurry and hope that they will be together on the last trip. Some are desperate because they are stressed with the wait. While others, just relax. Whether they come or not their prince charming/princess, Ay okay lang!

The single-blessed Assembly

• They are the ones who are convinced that they are not called to get married and have a family. You can call them different names but they are not affected by any teasing. the hassles of being single.They have discovered that being single is their "DESTINY"And they won't regret it.

Facing the Emo part of being single

It is not easy to be single. You will encounter many ghosts who will visit you over and over again, especially if you are alone in the room and only your shadow is with you.

Emotional Panic

• As the day on the calendar rapidly changes, many are nervous. Especially among ladies, torture is gradually approaching their biological expiration date. It is inevitable to feel envy or frustration every time they see couples who are so sweet. the pressure intensifies when your friends get married one after another.You also fear the shrinking pool of eligible men.

Loneliness

• even if some smile when you ask if they are ok, they often feel the opposite especially when they are alone. Despite your career success, you miss having someone with whom to share your victories.You miss hearing the saccharine words and sweet nothings from a partner.

Low Self-Esteem

• for the people around you. any success you achieve when you don't have a partner is incomplete. Here many singles think less of themselves no matter how beautiful they are, they feel like they are the ugliest person in the world. that there is no X factor that many can notice.

Uncertainly in life's direction

• Because of the monotony, you don't know where your life is going. Your major question: What is the purpose of my life? Many singles become self-absorbed because they only care about themselves. others try different things just to have a unique spice to life (i.e.Sexual activities).

Relentless Social pressure

• One of the most annoying parts of single life is the overwhelming criticism, ridicule or teasing from those around you. Even churches are often not supportive of the idea that oj just be single. Even singles Ministries are may subtle attempts to pressure its members to get married.Due to unwanted social pressure, many women settle for guys who are below their standards.

so, how do you face the unstoppable temptations?

First, you're just dedma. Never dignify the issue. Just smile. They will also get tired. Second, you can comfort them head-on. you must have the gentle audacity to say:

"I don't need a partner to be happy! Third, if the teasing is really annoying, decide to avoid people who are bullying. Don't go to places where you will be the target of bullying. That's how easy it is you will be affected by their sarcasm.

As you Wait

The single life is not necessarily better or worse than married life,only different.Regardless of your relationship status, God has a good plan for you. There are many things a single person can do that a married person or family can no longer do. Stop blaming yourself for why you are single. And don't be bored with waiting.If it is in god’s plan that you get married, a good love story he will carry out at the right time.Especially if you let the lord be the scriptwriter and director of your life.

Maximize your Freedom

while single, enjoy life.Because when you are old, you will not be able to do many adventires of life.Develop healthy relationshipshios apart from marriage.I have many acquaintances who are fulfilled in their lives even without a husband.Because they have learned to be close to friends and relatives. Show others that it is fun to be single, that you don't need a partner to say that life is colorful.Marriage is not the only remedy to loneliness,nor is it the whole purpose of life.

Develop your personality

Your identity should be complete before ypu enter into a relationship.if you make the relationship a reason to develop your personality, you will become accustomed to relying on others to be happy. So, many when a girlfriend/boyfriend leaves, the world almost collapses because happiness depends on your partner.Hone your skills and talents.Men and women are attracted to the member of the opposite sex who is talented.Build your self-confidence.Their energies are so focused on imagining how life will be better if they get married.Other things in their life seem dull.You should never be Consumed by the idea that you need a woman/Man in your life to feel complete.

Have an Accountability group

Don't think that you are alone in your struggle. There are many of you. Your Christmas and Valentine's Day will not be cold if there are many of you who are united and work together.If you feel helpless,help other people.Nakakagaan ng feeling.you are not called to be grumpy everyday.Celebrate your singlehood with others.

Never compare yourself with others

You have a different path in life. If your eyes are focused on others, you will always be disappointed because there will always be someone who can surpass your achievements, performance and beauty. This can lead to jealousy and envy. See yourself as God sees you .God has a unique purpose for you and he will surely fulfill his plans for your life according to his timetable.

Find your Happiness in the Lord

we need to find true happiness in the lord who first loved us. He is the only one who can tell you. "I will never leave you or forsake you". the Lord's love is enough. To him, there is definitely no heartbreak. The psalmist wrote. "Delight yourself in the lord and he will give you the desires of your heart" Let him fill the hole in your heart that you think can only be filled by a signifficant other.If god is all you have,you have everything you need.

Thank you for Reading!

#19th

April 20,2022