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Getting married is also taking risk.

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1 month ago

I am happily married for 3 years. When I said happily I didn't mean that all of the happenings in our marriage was happy moments only. We've been also experiencing down moments , fighting , argument but at the end of the day we still manage to fix it and choose to love each other again and be happy.

When you get married they said that you will be united as one flesh but in reality you are both individual who has different attitude and perspective. Your partner has strength and weakness. Each of us have ofcourse. But focusing on the weakness of your partner will no be helpful on the marriage instead be the one who will bring out the best in them. As of my husband , he was good at art and I always support him and even suggested him to tru the digital art and then I will help him to sell it as an NFT.

Each of us has an issue on the past and sometimes that's one of the reason why married couples started a fight. Admit it or not , sometime we feel jealous on the past of our partner. I have a dark past , my husband is aware of that as I confess everything to him before we had a relationship. He knew that I am liberated before. As for him , he is a good guy and I have no issue on him. As for this matter , I want to say the past is past and what important is the future that you will build together that's why you need to focus on that.

Challenge is part of marriage. I remember when I was teenage I thought once you got married on the one you love it will be happily ever after but it's not. Every marriage encounters problem and challenges. It is a test of your love to each other. Like what I said above in every problem that we will faced what important is that you will fight it together. In sickness and in health , for better or for worst.

Every marriage has its own progress. Meaning on how the success you are as a couple. For example , you will see the couple on Facebook they already owned a house or a car and then you will asked yourself when will the time that you will owned a house or a car , like that. As for me and my husband , those couples is our inspiration to dream for our family. Even if we have no house for now we still strive to make it. As long as we are together achieving it , it's a kind of success already.

There is not such thing as perfect marriage. Marriage is a teamwork. You will need to work hard together. Like what I said on him , I will said it in Tagalog. Lahat tayo may pagkukulang at kaya tayo nandito para punan yung kulang ng bawat isa.

When you get married you also take risk because you will never know what the future brings. From time to time situation can change , it's not constant. You met your husband with a stable job it doesn't mean that it will be forever. You get married and plan to your future but it's seems things happened not according to the plans. Your partner change his behavior and you hated it because you thought his good guy, something like that. And like what I commented on @Marinov article a week ago about the married couples who always fight, marriage is all about acceptance.

Lastly , marriage is lifetime. It's not like when you don't want it anymore you will leave your partner. In Filipino there's a saying na ang pag aasawa ay hindi parang pagsubo na mainit ng kainin na kapag napaso ay iluluwa. Marriage needs a total commitment and the secret to the long lasting marriage is love ofcourse. When we say love , it's also includes respect and trust. And ofcourse God. Let him be the center of the marriage and always asked him for guidance. Pray together , praise Him together , thank H together.


Just thought of this topic because of my sister in-law post on Facebook.

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Amen to all of that Yen! Spot on yung mga nasabi mo. Kaya yung mga nag-iisip na madali lang mag-asawa, mag-isip isip na kyo, lol! Pero it's no joke. It's a lifetime commitment talaga.

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1 month ago

Kaya nga hahaha. Iba na talaga Yung journey ng married life.

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

Teue sis, hindi na fantasy :D

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1 month ago

Nasa engagement stage pa lang ako, pero napapaisip tuloy ako kung itutuloy ko ba. HAHAHA..Well, wala naman talagang madali Ms. Yen. Sabi nga nila, "Marriage is a lifetime commitment."

Sa panahon nga ngayon, parang hindi nagsi-seryoso yung iba pagdating sa mga ganitong usapan, parang change of facebook status lang ganun. Aguyy. Sana lang talaga hindi kami matulad sa mga ganito na, naghihiwalay lang din kalaunan. Ayaw ko talaga yung sira ang pamilya. Katakot din talaga..

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1 month ago

Mukang mabait Naman si bf mo e. Engaged na pla kayo

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

Oo nga Ms. Yen. Di parin makapaniwala. Parang ang bilis lang nang mga pangyayari. Hehe

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1 month ago

Ayii. Kelan kasal?

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

Hindi pa namin alam Ms. Yen. Wala pang enough na budget..Maghahanap muna ako nang mga gustong mag-sponsor dito..HAHAHA😅🤣

Tas ikakasal din kasi ate niya..

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1 month ago

Mariage is a lifetime commitment, happy to see you on that, kasi ako I felt like being in marriage this day it's like a pass time nalang. daming naghihiwalay in just years of marriage. I don't want to be in that position where I will withdraw the vow. so please pray for me too hahah.. uwuuu

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1 month ago

Napapanahon nga tulad nung kay aljur at kay Kylie na parang Wala Lang Yung marriage hays

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

Kahit hindi ako maka relate madam, ganyan talaga pag may asawa na. Base lang s anababasa ko sa pocketbook ba.

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1 month ago

Makarelate kana Kasi haha.

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

You are right sis na married life is really hard Hindi biro yung pagdadaanan ninyo as a couple kaya dapat strong always at support talaga sa isa't isa. At always make si Lord and center ng inyong relationship. Praying for your hubby na gumaling na siya. Stay in love sissy.

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1 month ago

Thank you po 💗

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

awwww...kahit ayaw ko makasal pero na i inspire talaga ano sa mga couples na kagaya niyo mommy..pinaninindigan niyo talaga ang vows niyo sa isa't isa nung ikasal kayo😍😍😍

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1 month ago

Kasi Yun Yung dapat gawin hehe.

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago
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1 month ago

Congratulations friend. I've been married for 6 years now. And it is a commitment for life. Making each day a special day is the best. Finding solutions together to each problem, raising our little son, and fighting for a better future with someone by your side, has no comparison with anything.

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1 month ago

Wow 💗 That's the keyword , together ♥️

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

Marriage is like a gamble too. You win and lose in the game. But the players are both of you. You should expect the unexpected and accept that life isn't always about winning. Sometimes we need to lose to enable us to learn where we go wrong.

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1 month ago

Agree ako dyan mommy

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

Yes miss yen. Marriage is important on having a healthy relationship and understanding with each other. You should holding each other's hand through hardship, sorrows and happiness. Always be aware for the things that can be ruin with your marriage. No one will give up easily whatever challenges you have.

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1 month ago

Sana nga Ganon lahat no?

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

That's why I always pray to GOD to bless the right man for me. Hirap magkamali sa pagpili Sis. Lol!

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1 month ago

Naku. Wala Naman Mali at Tama for me. Kasi Sabi ko nga acceptance. Nakakaano Mang sbihin pero Hindi Naman bibigay ni Lord yong complete package. Hehe

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

I can say too that marriage requires good and smooth relationship with each other. If you do not relate well as best friends, both couple won't understand each other. Thanks for sharing some tips about marriage because just as you have said, it is a risk but those who understands how to play the game would enjoy.

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1 month ago

I agree.

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

Marriage is a teamwork, tama ka dito momsh.. It requires two person's effort to make the marriage lasts...hindi pwedeng isa lang ang may gusto. Dapat sabay at pareho kayo.

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1 month ago

Totoo Yun mommy at punuan ng pagkukulang

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

Exactly.. Korek ka momsh

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1 month ago

In everything that we do there is a risk. Nasa tamang pag iingat nalang po and make sure na walang pagsisisi sa huli

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1 month ago

Hindi natin yon masasabi 🤣

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

This is all correct, saying yes to marriage is a risk..

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1 month ago

Yes na yes haha

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

How I wish that my parents are the same like your relationship po. 🥲 hays kung ganyan lang sana ang pagiisip ng mga magulang edi sana walang mga anak na naaapektuhan. 😢

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1 month ago

Totoo haha. Same with my parents. Kung ganito lang din Sana pag iisip ng nanay ko edi sana okay family namin hehe

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago

Getting marriage is also having the courage to say yes to a lifetime commitment that is full of unknown ... and i don't have that courage yet to take the risk

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1 month ago

Yays! Kelan Kaya? Hehe

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User's avatar Yen
1 month ago