I am happily married for 3 years. When I said happily I didn't mean that all of the happenings in our marriage was happy moments only. We've been also experiencing down moments , fighting , argument but at the end of the day we still manage to fix it and choose to love each other again and be happy.
When you get married they said that you will be united as one flesh but in reality you are both individual who has different attitude and perspective. Your partner has strength and weakness. Each of us have ofcourse. But focusing on the weakness of your partner will no be helpful on the marriage instead be the one who will bring out the best in them. As of my husband , he was good at art and I always support him and even suggested him to tru the digital art and then I will help him to sell it as an NFT.
Each of us has an issue on the past and sometimes that's one of the reason why married couples started a fight. Admit it or not , sometime we feel jealous on the past of our partner. I have a dark past , my husband is aware of that as I confess everything to him before we had a relationship. He knew that I am liberated before. As for him , he is a good guy and I have no issue on him. As for this matter , I want to say the past is past and what important is the future that you will build together that's why you need to focus on that.
Challenge is part of marriage. I remember when I was teenage I thought once you got married on the one you love it will be happily ever after but it's not. Every marriage encounters problem and challenges. It is a test of your love to each other. Like what I said above in every problem that we will faced what important is that you will fight it together. In sickness and in health , for better or for worst.
Every marriage has its own progress. Meaning on how the success you are as a couple. For example , you will see the couple on Facebook they already owned a house or a car and then you will asked yourself when will the time that you will owned a house or a car , like that. As for me and my husband , those couples is our inspiration to dream for our family. Even if we have no house for now we still strive to make it. As long as we are together achieving it , it's a kind of success already.
There is not such thing as perfect marriage. Marriage is a teamwork. You will need to work hard together. Like what I said on him , I will said it in Tagalog. Lahat tayo may pagkukulang at kaya tayo nandito para punan yung kulang ng bawat isa.
When you get married you also take risk because you will never know what the future brings. From time to time situation can change , it's not constant. You met your husband with a stable job it doesn't mean that it will be forever. You get married and plan to your future but it's seems things happened not according to the plans. Your partner change his behavior and you hated it because you thought his good guy, something like that. And like what I commented on @Marinov article a week ago about the married couples who always fight, marriage is all about acceptance.
Lastly , marriage is lifetime. It's not like when you don't want it anymore you will leave your partner. In Filipino there's a saying na ang pag aasawa ay hindi parang pagsubo na mainit ng kainin na kapag napaso ay iluluwa. Marriage needs a total commitment and the secret to the long lasting marriage is love ofcourse. When we say love , it's also includes respect and trust. And ofcourse God. Let him be the center of the marriage and always asked him for guidance. Pray together , praise Him together , thank H together.
Just thought of this topic because of my sister in-law post on Facebook.
Amen to all of that Yen! Spot on yung mga nasabi mo. Kaya yung mga nag-iisip na madali lang mag-asawa, mag-isip isip na kyo, lol! Pero it's no joke. It's a lifetime commitment talaga.