Understanding is better than hate

Hello everyone, I hope that you'll understand why I am very inactive with these past three days, it's because we already transfered to a new place and we have a very poor internet connection in this place. And right now I am writing at 4 am so that I can have better connection, there's no other time that I can write an article only in this hour.

So, without delay let's go to my topic. I will be sharing about understanding, it is related with being aware of someone's feelings or emotions with others.

Yesterday, I was affected with my aunt's video call, that she will be able to attend with our family reunion because they are still not in good terms with her siblings due to some simple reasons. It is because of not giving a flower to one of her niece(a plantita),and during my aunt's busy time because she had her small business, she can't pay attention to other siblings when they go to her home for visit, they get mad on her.

I was thinking why all of these reasons can be validated why did the reunion will not be finalize anymore. It's not a big deal actually, my aunt is very kind and for just one moment, that she become a busy person they will not give her a chance,I am so sad about that.

They hate each other, I think for almost 1 year already since my grandmother died.

Understanding no hate please

I want to beg for this, I've tried to explain with them but they don't want to hear me. As a family, my heart doesn't feel good about it.

I really want to cry yesterday, because I know that she love our family but then because of it, she will not be with us.

Understanding is better than hate, because its like a rubber band that will stretch our patience, temper, to give chance to other's who commit mistake.

I feel uncomfortable when I knew that my family hate each other, when family is supposed to be loving and accepting others failure.

Understanding will produce unity

When a family will understand each other, they can work together as one. I miss they days before pandemic, when we had our reunion, even though we didn't have a lot of preparation but were very happy.

But for this year, it's really different, it's not a good one to hear that they are not united anymore.

A united family is stronger than those who are not. Because they are concern with each other, they are sympathizing the other siblings. There's no perfect family, but I desire for a family who are working together despite of being an imperfect.

A united family who acknowledge each other is immovable and united in every decisions, or even in struggles that they encounter along the way.

Understanding family is a happy home

Who wants to live in a happy home? All of us, want it, right? Because there will never be a good life when the home is not a happy one.

A home is a basic foundation of every child, youth, man and woman. It is where we belong and find our identity of who we are.

How happy is it, a home who have a wide range of understanding, believing that everyone is a part of growth, and they need each other.

Just like us, even if our father had a undesirable attitude, but our mother is a very understanding woman. Even if she can heard a painful words from him, she will still be there all the time, she never leave us, instead she's growing in understanding to all of us.

Now, let's go to the other side.

Hate produces division

I was moved by our president speech last week, when he spoke about unity for our country, a country that is united has no division or splitting up.

Once a family is divided it cannot stand tall but it will be weakened, they will not be cooperative anymore when there is a someone who needs help, just like what happened to us.

Hate conveys a bad message to children

Yesterday, when my aunt called me, they ask why is that their cousins will not come, and I was confused how to answer them, but they heard my aunt's voice, and they felt sad about it. They come to the point of questioning, why do they do are like that, and it's so hard to explain.

It's a unhealthy environment for a family who hate each other, so as much as possible we, love and understanding should grow all the time, if we want our kids to do the same.

Understanding is where love grows

Without understanding, love will never outgrow, is will be set aside.

Understanding for me, it means of putting aside our pride, and too much defensive reasons to find guilt with others.

Understanding is a magic word that will overcome other's shortcomings, and failure. We are born imperfect humans, so, unfortunately, we really need to understand each other especially when it involves with our family's sake.

My heart was heavy yesterday, because I love my family.

Writers end note:

What I've learned from this?

I learned that, I should be earnestly pray to have more understanding with my own family, my husband and my children, so that we can be united together as one family.

One of the goals that I want to pursue in this life, is having a family that is not divided, but standing together as one.

Thanks for patiently reading this write up, I have a problem with internet connection recently. I'm glad you drop here.

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