Positive words that a child would like to hear

How often do you appreciate your child? Do you usually tell them that they are doing good? What positive words that they like to hear from us?

First of all, our child is still in the developing stage, especially those who are below 10 years old and even the young ones. They lived according to what they heard and learned from us. I've met a girl maybe she was 11 years old, when I'm sharing a values formation in grade school in our place, it's before the pandemic. One of the students hate her mother because she said, that her mother was so strict, she always treat her so bad, she was feeling rejected, I can feel her anger, and it seems like she doesn't like her mama, her favorite is her papa who always supports her.

I understand how did this girl reacted , she's feeling unimportant to her mother, that her elder was the favorite. I also heard her mom saying that her second daughter was lazy, and low in academics, that's why she's not impressed with her.

The mom didn't consider that her negative words were already affecting her daughter. And it's also one of the reasons why she disrespects her mother.

Here are some examples of positive words for your son or daughter:

• I'm listening

In my case, most of the time I am the one who's talking to my children, but in contrast to this, what if parents will listen to their children, about their thoughts and opinion? In this way, they can feel that their words are also important. By looking to them with eye contact, they can realize that they are not "just a child." (Anak ra ta ka, anak lang teka)have you heard this words from your parents too, yes I do.It makes me sad when I listened to it.So, why not we will listen to them, they also have a good thoughts.

• You can say no

Which means they have also given a choice to disagree when they are not happy or they are not comfortable doing what their parents want them to do so.

My personal view and experience about this

That is one thing that I keep on fighting for when I was a teenager, to make a choice. I know the feeling that I'm forced to do something, which I dislike.It keeps on bothering me, and lots of questions pops up into my mind, why did parents will always be the right one.

By giving a child, choices to say yes and no, will help them on how to decide on their own, and to becoming independent and to stand on their own views.

• I love you

This is my last point but the sweetest. And I think, not all moms or families have the habit of saying I love you to their parents or children, I mean there are people who didn't practice it to utter vocally, but they just show to their parents that they love them to.

But, what's the difference of saying these words to our children?

As I have observed, if the kids will hear these words from their parents, it became contagious, which means, they will also say I love you to other family members like grandparents, and with their siblings.

In addition, it will help them to feel that they are valuable and important, it gives them joy too.

My End Notes

We love our children very much because they are the most precious gift in our life as a marriage couple. Knowing that we, as parents are a steward of these little fellas, that's why, we have the responsibility to fill them with positive words to help their growth.

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Love your kids!