One of the most important lesson I've ever learned about

"Lessons that we learned never ends as long as we exist. "

Today, I would like to share with you one of the most important lesson that I've learned I've ever learned. And this is all about in decision-making

"Don't decide quickly when you are at the peak of your emotions".

This usually happens when we are emotionally struggle and then we end up in a certain conclusion that we never think about, and we have the tendency to decide quickly. Let me share my experience like this:

There was a time in my life, when I and my husband had a disagreement and we had a conflict that we didn't resolve, until our parents have enter into the situation when they are also get mad at me and my husband. It was a very emotional time, and everybody was angry, and blown up.

The circumstances had made us to decide to transfer into another place and live there. I can say, that decisions that is made which is a result of anger, and emotional break out will not bring any good to us. It seems that we are being cursed because we leave in that place with bitterness and hate. And I tell you, it affects in our life, emotionally, physically, not only with the both of us, as husband and wife but also with our two kids.

At the first month of our life in a new place that we transfered, that was 4 yeas ago. I got sick, had anxiety and depressed, my husband also was sick, and I experienced the longest time in my life in the hospital before I recovered. My kids were left behind in my husband's aunt, and it's quite difficult for all of us. I cried a lot for what had happened to us. I've come to think that I have a lot of grudges with my family, and because of that, I am always bothered in each day of my life.

And I am thinking, that as we transfered to a new place, I feel that we are blessed because of all the emotional pain and unforgiving heart that we had.

Unsettled conflict in a relationship, family will not bring good to us, it will always be like a chain that tied us that keeps us coming back even we strive to keep moving on.

Decisions that came from emotional pain, will keep on bothering us, and bear fruit of bitterness, illnesses, and a very difficult life financially. Whatever we do, we never became productive.

This is very important thing to consider before making a decision.

Decide when you are at peace

Decisions actually must come from the heart that is peaceful, you will know that decisions that are done well goes like a river, it won't bother you or even makes you a trouble.

Just like what we did, we decide out of conflict, and we end up conflict and everything turns out negatively.

Decide when you are already calm down and settled heart

Decisions that comes from a calmed emotions, are always been fruitful, it will be a productive one, it will not bother you, ad you will never have regrets in the end.

Bottom Line

The core of every human is our heart, and it composes with all the good things, God relationships,and settle. Once, every aspects was not in a nice tune,everything will never be in placed. It seems that it's like a "Domino", once one of the pieces will turned down, everything will be dragged into the ground and fall.

Another story

My uncle came home last week, his very angry and he said to us, that he will break his wife, because he was angry with her, for helping her son even if they are already married, just like washing their clothes and other household chores. For me, I am not convinced with what he said, because he was angry at that time, that's why he said that he will break his wife.

A few days later, when we got home, we talked again and we find out that he will still go home soon. At the back of my mind, I was laughing because I know that he loves her wife and he can't just leave her alone.

Therefore, I can say, that most of the time, decisions that are made because of anger, is not true, it's just like a form of cover up from our real emotions. The main point of it, is that, it became as a way out everytime there is a problem.

We will say, "It's enough!, ayoko na!

But deep inside there is a voice that crying, but outside the actions was different.

Of course, I don't judge you if ever you made decisions lately based on what you feel

I just want to share this based on my experience and observation in my life, which gave me a great lesson that I will always be remember in my whole life.

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