Dying delicadeza"

Hello read cash!It another brain storming of writing articles for today.My topic today is called"delicadeza(decency) ".It's a Spanish word and culture which Filipinos have inherited with the Spaniards, it means being being sensitive to the feelings of others in tagalog may tamang asal sa kapwa tao"It's one of the Filipino culture.

I have read it in social media that this very valuable Filipino values was dying as we can see it today,and just like what happened during the past election day, when people are throwing shame towards the other.

The most timely aspect that affect this values is the rampant use of social media, why did this values is slowly fading. Online world have become a tool of expressing hate, and other undesirable content. The moral standard has been diverted and disrespected .

I drop by with the song, delicadeza on you tube,which says,

"sabi nila pwede na raw babae ang manligaw, di na uso ang hinaharana at pinupuntahan sa bahay para ligawan, dahil simpleng text lang sa phone ay pwede na agad magkarelasyon

In English:

" They say it's okay for a woman to flirt, it's no longer fashionable to be seduced and go home to court, because just a simple text on the phone can immediately have a relationship"

Traditionally speaking, women are not the one who used to court a girl, but as the times went by, there are some changes where girls will make the first moved.I mean not all,but it happens.

Delicadeza or decency is fading in a way, that there are instances that a person will do things without considering others feelings. Just a post and comment can make or break relationship. Some people called it" shamelessness, no shame in giving doing filthy things, no shame to disrespect.

Filipinos are traditionally sensitive when it comes to ethical and unethical topic. The people in the new generation have different views with the people from the past Era. But for me, it doesn't matter what kind of Era, respect and right manner doesn't have level of time, but it's always vital and valid through the years.

Last Sunday, when we attend the church service there was a husband and wife who go along with me going to church, and I told them that next week we will be having a fellowship with other church mates in town.Her husband told his wife, that he wil be on duty on the shop, but he was not serious when he said it.Then the wife replied,

" you will absent for no valid reason and then this time you cannot commit to attend".

"wow, savage, double kill", the husband replied.

Her wife talk to him loudly in front of us with other members of the church.The husband feel ashamed that his wife was telling him in front of us, he was trying to explain that she can tell her in private but she doesn't do it.

Delicadeza emphasizes proper manner and sensitivity with others feelings. Just like saying 'I got a crush on you in front of a man and his wife".Its very alarming. Acting like boss in front of your boss.

Some No-no scenario :

Never cut or overtake others who are already in line.

If you are going on a drugstore fast food chain, it's always proper to wait for your turn, even if it means for you to sacrificed your time. Where there is more urgent reason, better ask the crowd first than being misinterpreted.

Take home food from a special occasion or party without the host permission. They maybe like to kept the leftover on the fridge so that they can have food on the next day.

No-no to asking personal questions like

Are you single?

When will you get married?

Why did you break with your spouse, what happened.

Or asking for a family who is in a rehabilitation center. We shouldn't let ourselves to be an agent in giving them additional heartache.

No-no to ask, family dark secrets or confidential details. That is a big big No.

There are a lot of situations that we need to pay attention when we encounter it.

Respect and good moral values of will last for all ages, this is one thing of a concrete legacy in whatever races we belong. Never underestimate this kind of moral values, learn to live with sensitivity with others feelings.

Some other pointers having a sensitivity of Filipino is also related with the dress code of women,being modest and proper clothes. I will not state it here, for sure everybody knows it already. Filipinos are known as "Dalagang Pilipina".

Is delicadeza dying or dead?

My mind was full tonight, there is something that I prepare for tomorrow's gathering for women, and hopefully I will be there. My eyes were about to close.

My gratitude to all my friends, writers and everybody in this platform., thanks to you.

Love love!

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