Learn To Be Independent

It comes to a certain time in every ones life that we must strive to be independent, for a lot more reason than we can possibly talk about. It's no rush however, cause situations do arise, there could be a tangible reason why someone needs to hang on a while and prepare better for independence, rather than rush in only to be more frustrated. Also it could also be a favourable situation, not necessarily a bad reason could make one dependent, sometimes the parents have made provisions for the kids and there isn't any reason for them to labour anymore, while some would say they don't care about their parents wealth and want to chase after theirs, its doesn't matter, I mean money is money. Except there is a passion he or she wishes to pursue.

It's a pleasant sight to behold, that the kid who was formerly dependent and receiving from his parents are currently on the other end doing ok and now giving to the parents. This circle shouldn't be altered, I feel it has to be this way, God has programmed it so and we all must work to make it so. It's the first reason why we must work to be independent, because God wants it so. The first circle is we being as kids, totally and I mean totally dependent on our parents or guardians, then the next circle would be we as young youths trying and assisting our Parents, they might not be necessarily old and should still have a lot working for them, so it's a co working situation.

This time is the best time to plan, since you aren't fully taking responsibility for your parents, as well as still young, maybe early married or a young parent for yourself, so it's a time when the expenses are still minimal, because believe me when I say, the latter expenses would be higher, when your parents are not working anymore and are expecting, plus your kids are not spending higher on tuition and other needed and unneeded expenses, plus feeding for many more stomachs, you'll see that the best time to plan is now, no one can say otherwise, the best time to plan is at this stage. So we need this stage, so vital. So we must strive to be independent so we can start working on this stage.

Another reason why we need to seek to be independent, is so we don't loose our minds, If you have your mother with you, you'll know what I'm talking about. Not necessarily she nags or talks to you about it every day, but just that stare at you and you are already judging yourself. Well I guess they all wish for the better, I mean who wouldn't want their kid to be the best kid in the neighborhood, I sure wish for mine. I do imagine the rush to compare, john now has a car, who is doing fine for himself, and they close the speech with "don't worry, yours would come" and sigh, oh the thoughts we have afterwards. One of the best solutions to all this has been to be quite independent for ourselves. Somewhere we can think clearly as well as mingle.

Oh yes, being independent can get you a place of peace, maybe small or simply sharing with a friend, but that privacy, that clarity, that space, it truly does alot to the mind. Like I said, this shouldn't be a rush, but in time it should be considered and worked towards. I've seen articles that tried to make it look nicer so every young man who stays with their parents won't find it offensive, but then I guess we aren't deceiving any one. Apart for circumstances that makes that option the best option, maybe trying to find your footing for the main time, maybe it's the only option as no one is helping, or sickness, but when there is nothing and one still has the capacity, yet still stays with the parents, we wouldn't be helping by saying there's nothing wrong with that. Simply put, plan on your moving out. Try! Then you'll return later to thank me.

Yet another reason we seek to be independent is cause it gives us a sense of ownership, this is nice. Many of us have lived in sharing, your clothes are shared, your shoes, and so on, it's how we grew up especially when you live with your sibling who has almost similar body as you. Remember how you aren't freaked out to buy new things then, it was cause your siblings would probably wear it more than you or spoil it soon. Well being independent affords you the luxury of having what you desire, this way we are true to ourselves and know ourselves more, we explore our deepest thoughts, do as we please and mind you bear the consequences, but we sure would be living the life we want. As well as trying to own as much as we desire.

A young lady I once had this discussion with was concurring as she said it was true, oh Will, it's great we all seek to be independent, the pressure at home is too much, so I had to move out, and I asked are you working, she said no, so where did you move out to? She replied to her boyfriends place, I was stunned. Like you moved out from one place of dependence to another place of dependence, you are not independent, worst still you left the safest place of dependence and went on the riskiest place of dependence, cause anything can happen and you sure aren't married yet. So I tell ladies too ought to be responsibility minded, so many ladies out there are doing marvelously well, it's a pity a few are hoping to earn with their bodies alone.

Being independent profits well, we should only ensure we are going about it rightly. It's never bad if our parents can support us financially when trying to be independent, it's a joint work, the main aim is to stand and stand firm so you can help them much better. Our friends too can come handy in this, more people actually start their independence journey via their friends help. Anyways we aren't just leaving home to go relax somewhere, we are living to go work, and I mean work harder, cause we left home to make home better, we can't afford to fail. And may God help us all. Amen!

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