Good day guys, today let's talk on body shaming, how wrong is it. I have seen and experience quite a lot for myself and I too had experience this act called body shaming. It's one of the quickest way to get someone feeling sad and utterly changing someone's mood to a bad one all at a go, just with the utterance of those unpleasant words. Is it wrong to advice someone on how to go about maintaining or adjusting their body ? No, but its wrong when its said in such a way, that it never encourages the morale of the supposed person, rather it makes them cry or sad.
Words like look at your skin, damn... what stupid cream do you use, you look so bad, these words already wants to get someone running off home to hide his or herself in a closet away from the world. The implications to this is the fact that such person would likely miss out on important places to go, as he or she is no more comfortable meeting other people, being like what would people be saying in their mind, oh I look bad. Even for the strong hearted few who could still choose to go, they had lost all sense of confidence and are likely to stutter as they feel less, so you see those words might get them serious, but it has spoilt a lot in the process.
Fat, fat people really deal with a lot, luckily they're so many in recent times that it looks almost normal, and more and more fat people are coming out and doing their thing, without any form of shaming at heart, and guess what, the audience loves them. Its almost like a distinguishing factor to them, they are easy to spot out and given the needed attention. However this confidence doesn't exist in all, still for many others, it's a war they hope to counter attack, they might be trying their best, but you know its easier to get fat than it is to loose the weight, those excercises aren't easy.
The truth is we can do better, we can say inbetter. To all this there is a better way to saying it out. It hurts real deep when we try to insult someone with something they too know you're likely to pick out, they could be trying to change it but it doesn't just happen, it has to be carefully supervised. The major issue to this is the lowering of the self esteem, if the shaming were mere harmless insults, then it wouldn't be treated as an offence worth cautioning, but we have seem how such words completely spoils it for a person. Some have deemed their lifes worthless, when in reality it isn't a life determinate.
Men too get body shamed. It's as though we think the men aren't proofs to this insults, so while we may want to go soft on the females, the men are told outright and it's as though it's fine, he would deal with it. He's a man, hey you too fat, and everyone laughs, however the same emotional trauma, we are subjecting this man to. Men to stare at the mirror for longer hours wondering why on earth they are that way. Trying to deal with it, is enough trauma, you adding your insults to it, is only making matters worse, and it should be stopped as soon as possible.
As a young man I had severe skin break outs, the pimples and spot were much, to make matters worse, the crazy friends I had were happy to tease me with it, I could stare at the mirror for long hours wishing all the acnes would all disappear, sometime it gets worst and I stay home, off school, off visitation, off so many things, all waiting for the acnes to subside or reduce, I wished it would get easier for me, but it didn't go easily, those crazy friends made matters worst, if they had been easy on me, maybe I could have summoned enough courage to come at least, moreover it's a normal occurence, yet made it so unbearable.
If funny to picture that so many people today would be dealing different issues, some to which they are body shamed of, we can do better. We can't except everyone to know how to care less, so many people live with so many problem, we preying on the problem may be like pouring fuel to fire, it doesn't solve the issue, rather it daunts on the self confidence and esteem of the supposed individual, the reaction could be sometimes severe even till suicide, we have to be cautious of what we say around them, learn to politely advice situations, with proffering likely solutions, not to make jest, or abuse.
Beauty is in the attitude too, but appearances too matters a big deal, so let's try to work on ourselves. Don't be afraid to raise topics that are of concern to you, if we don't talk about it, we may never solve it, so when people talk about it, maybe trying to talk on your body, try to listen and guard your heart from feeling bad or having a low self esteem, maybe a solution may rise off it, never be quick to conclude that someone just wants to make jest of you. We all on the other hand, must learn to go easy on people, stop body shaming, its wrong, moreover we all have something to be ashamed of, just maybe people aren't aware. We can do better, body shaming doesn't help, it makes matters worst.
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