Its often deeper and more than what meets the eye, the problem or issues anyone might be facing today may simply be an extension of something else, something that already happened and wasn't treated rightly. For example someone's attitude towards you might be so off and you begin to wonder why so much resentment for you, you should be aware that people don't mostly react to that hurtful stuff you did to them that instant but that creates an unpleasant attitude from them to you, so you might be feeling they are annoyed because you stepped on their white shoe today but no its because of what you did last year.
Often if you don't try to identify the root cause we might be wasting time trying to heal or amend current issues that would surely spoil tomorrow. As much as finding the root cause is important in works like engineering, doctoring, education and many spheres of life, finding the root cause is also great for us as humans. When there's a leakage and spillings starts to overflow, more than you should concentrate on containing the spillage, you should lay more emphasis on identifying what and what caused the leakage, this way we can stop it from reoccurring.
Maybe we should learn to ask the question of what did I do wrong, where did I go wrong, I thought we were good before then why such attitudes all of a sudden, and hope that persons open up. It might be an issue for the person to work on as it's not your fault, or it could be your fault and you need to know before you make such mistakes with other people. So when it comes to interactions issues maybe something went wrong somewhere of which it'll do us a lot more good to identify the root cause so as to stop it.
In another sense, finding the root cause is a good way of helping someone find solution to a problem in their life, as some of the problems maybe arising from traumas of their past. Some thing that has happened to them before and they Still have the imagery playing in their heads and influencing their decision. Like some marriages aren't going well not because their love is lost, but cause one of the partner is still traumatize by their past and hasn't yet dealt with it.
For example a rape victim who didn't get proper counselling and therapist before going to marry her dream man, only for sex to become bitter and hateful, something meant to be enjoyed now being endured. The man in such case may have to put up with a lot, bearing and enduring but with limited patience. The right step however is to find the root cause, then and only then can they seek for a solution. If the wife tells the story of her unfortunate ordeal then they both can plan for a therapist and counselling which would soon lead to an end of the issue.
So we begin to see the need of finding the root cause to a problem. However it starts by opening up to saying the truth. If the matter is conceded then nothing can really be done to make matters easy. Imagine that friend refusing to say this was what you did wrong which got me upset, you can never know, and worse still you might continue to do that same upsetting thing, cause you don't know. Imagine the wife not opening up to her husband about her past rape case, the husband might get frustrated trying to find solution, might be feeling he's the one doing something wrong.
So it goes both ways, both parties has enough to play, one has to find the root cause for such problem, and the other who knows the root cause has to open up to saying it out, this way both can work hand in hand to make things right, work hand in hand to amend all that needs to be amended. I don't think anyone is a mind reader, or a psychic who would just know what the problem is, your friends are not, your spouses too are not, nor are your family so therefore if there is a problem, do well to say it out, so they would know. Its better to say I told you but you didn't listen than to concede and keep malice.
It would also do a lot more good to us if we treat people right regardless of what they have done, more like finding a reason to love them regardless, however this is hard cause we are human but its very achievable. Same way our parents wouldn't change their love treatment to us cause we did bad, same way we must learn to live. Not for the benefit if anyone but ourselves, this keeps the mind at ease, this ensure you're free spirited and less burdened. Forgive so you save someone the stress of finding the root cause, for other cases open up to speak so solution can be proffered.
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