My unseeming oddity for the concept of Marriage!

28th, February 2022

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There is a simple definition for the word Family - They are a group of people related by blood, for example., a set of parents and their children. We were all born into a family. As we grow we tend to love and care for them and they in turn do the same. That is a veritable fact! There are others who haven't been shown the affection they need from their immediate families or loved ones but, that is not what this article focuses on. Like the old saying goes, "there is a time and place for everything". That bodes true for whatever work you set your hands to do - and in this case, it bodes true for this hand-typed article.

I have lived with my parents for many years. I have watched them make decisions for the good of the family. I have seen how they cater for my brothers and sisters. How they sailed through hardships, celebrated many highs and suffered difficult lows. One thing remained constant in all of these seasons, however, their unwavering bond. At some point, it felt, somewhat, illogical how a Man and a Woman would live the rest of their lives together even in insufferable times. The concept of Marriage as derived in the English Dictionary - "is a union of two people, a Man and a Woman that creates a family tie and carries legal, social, religious rights and responsibilities". This stood out to me as cliché as it was beyond reason for my frail mind. I could not stand the thought of being with a person for too long, much less forever. I was young and inexperienced. Maybe, I still am. In an article written by @Tartasbags, "Making a successful Marriage", it is important to learn the reasons we decide to dive into marriage as making a reckless decision could be costly.

Those stream of thoughts shattered as the years went by. My parents were the living witness I sought so hard to find amongst my many quest for answers. Sounds ironic, doesn't it? My upbringing wasn't short of the affection, love and warmth of a parent. But, somehow, I was instigated to think differently of something, that has been a gift to me, by an unknown thought pattern. The realization of such silliness broke every bit of belief that Marriages weren't bound to prosper. Perhaps, my consumption of the negativity that flew around concerning the subject matter drove me into countless overthinking. It was as glaring as seeing a ray of light flash across the sky in the break of dawn how that most supposed "lovers" who, from the outset, set out on a course slightly bigger than they knew as they were simply not ready, yet. Therefore, causing them to crash into an icewall leaving them Frozen and spelling the beginning of a, rather, tragic end to their little institution.

I didn't understand the fact that as much as I wanted to be with someone - a person I could Love and cherish with my very soul; I was also warped in a false belief, a wrong notion that is not entirely the case. I scribbled down the names of my unborn kids on paper and would fantasize of the same love and warmth I'd show to them. Just as my parents did me. As time passed, and as I engaged the writings of men and women well advanced in years and wisdom. I broke free from that initial illusion.

Love is a wonderful thing and Marriage is a gift from God to us. My initial falsified perception made me break my first relationship. Not because I hadn't enough money at the time to cater for my girl, because that alone would've spelled only a little truth - a half truth! But, I was scared we would end up repeating the same cycle. Regardless of the failed relationship we remain very good friends. A wonderful lady with aspirations, full of life and dreams.

Now, I am glad I was born into a family that knows the worth of care, hospitality, dedication, and sustenance from our Creator.

Conclusion

Marriage is a thing of delight to those that choose the right person to live a long, fulfilling life with. Not a load of despair and sorrow that leaves only cracks in the hearts of who gets victimised by divorce - cos in truth, that is what it leaves them with whether they choose to believe it or not!

Thank you for reading! 💓💐