When i first heard this two words from my mentor, i immediately felt it can't be true. It's just a motivational talk intended to make one not to sulk up too much when a major set back is encountered. I didn't take it seriously at all like I've done to other lessons I've learnt from him but something happened earlier this month when i launched a start up program. I did all the right things to the best of my knowledge but then the result i wanted wasn't forth coming. I wondered what could be wrong and kept trying but then i wasn't impressed with the outcome so I stopped trying and concluded that the attempt is a failed one. Admitting that was really heartbreaking for something i gave my all for so I avoided anything that reminded me of it. After two days I felt a strong urge to review what i did and they the "eureka" moment occurred. I discovered that i was about to give out something that's worth a lot of money if i could put some oecks on it for a penny and I'm not giving just one but a lot of them for a little amount and then the wiser me(my mind) said "is
Failure not feedback?" Oh my i quickly went in search of the lecture on that topic. I listened with an open mind and i discovered that I've not been following this principle in other parts of my life and that's why I'm not moving at the pace i want.
"Before success comes to a man’s life, he is sure to meet with much temporary defeat and, perhaps, some failure, when defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and most logical thing to do is quit. That is exactly what the majority of men do” --Napoleon--
People have buttressed Failure as a very bad thing so much that the we now also see it in same light and is something we dread and try to avoid at all cost but if it eventually comes, we fee mad at ourselves and never want to try again just so we don't encounter it. Those who were able to muster courage and try again take a different route since the previous one didn't work out but will still end up failing again which will make the person give up totally. This happened because he/she focus on the name failure more than the results it shows
The truth is failure is not something that we should dread or run away from. It is a learning process and a tool we can use to be successful. When you try something and you fail, it tells you there are things you were not prepared for and also reveal what that thing is giving you a a clue on how to go about it, what to avoid and what to focus on.
Fear is learned and so can be unlearned and this leads to self-confidence that propels you forward. To eliminate or unlearn fear, you have to accept that no success is possible without failure, all successes are preceded by great failure repeated over a long period of time. Think of failure as Trial and Error method of solving mathematics. You do something and you check if it's correct, if it isn't it'll prompt you where the problem is coming from, you go back to the drawing board, fix it and check again and if successful, you get a pass mark.
Your failures are the testing grounds for your future successes, so double your failures for It is better to fail now and learn than fail when making million dollars deal as a result of something you could've learnt earlier.
If they are things you fail to do this month because of certain reasons, do not beat yourself up. Take note of why you failed and work with the feedback you received for successful result.