Never outshine the Bride!
PUBLISHED: JUNE 21, 2022 TIME: 3:00 PM PST ARTICLE #: 138
I recently published my most recent piece, however it appears that my mind is in the mood to write something right now. Is it beneficial? Yes, without a doubt. It only happens once in a blue moon, therefore I should take use of this opportunity to write as much as I can before my braincells dry up and make me sluggish once more.
Let us now discuss weddings. This will be my first time attending a wedding and being asked to be one of the bridesmaids. The wedding is scheduled for December 2022. Is it too soon for that? Is it strange that I'm more interested about it? lol. It'll be my cousin's wedding, anyway. When she and her fiancé came to see us in Manila two weeks ago, she disclosed it. They informed us of their wedding preparations, which included having my child serve as the ring bearer. I didn't hesitate to say yes when she asked if I could be her bridesmaid because it would be my first time. I'm really pleased about it, but I also felt emotional about it. *Dati, naghahabulan pa kami niyan nila ate sa buong bahay at naglalaro eh ... It's just that, we are getting oldees na talaga. I remember me and my ate because we are now in the mid 20's.*
Anyway, don't worry, I'm not under any pressure since I understand that marriage is a precious matter about which we must ponder a million times before making such a commitment. I can imagine my partner as my lifelong 'lovey-daps,' but I still wanted to spend some time with him and make sure everything was in order before committing to him forever.
Returning to my cousin's wedding, I took some time after they announced it here to watch some helpful advice regarding this type of event. After some Tiktok video scrolling, a random video appeared in which the girl advises those individuals, particularly the bridesmaids, not to outshine the bride.
As a bridesmaid, dress something that will not outshine the bride. If the bride wears a white dress, never wear a white gown (unless all the bridesmaid are asked to wear that color but it was a cardinal sin of marriage so leave the white dress to the bride!) that will make everyone notice you. Take note, the bride must be the most beautiful woman in the ceremony, not you.
What if you're more attractive than the bride? To be honest, pointing out that you are more attractive than the bride is rude. So if ever na gandang-ganda ka pa din sa sarili po pero bestfriend mo tong ikakasal, please, tigilan mo muna pagiging confident. Just wear a light makeup-hindi yung tatalbugan mo pa yung mismong bride. Actually, there are makeup artists who will provide you the best look naman as bridesmaid so ikalma mo muna pagiging gandang-ganda sa sarili.
Furthermore, never try to bypass the clothing code. Don't be too 'papansin' this time. If the invitation card specifies that you must wear a sundress or a long dress with a basic neckline, stick to that regulation and do not attempt to attend the ceremony in a ball gown, okay?
And that's what I have learned from that video. Well, to be honest, since it is my first time to witness a wedding, I got excited about it and planned for the look that I must show them but later on, I realized that the wedding day must be enjoyed by the newly weds and not me. So I decided that if their wedding day comes, I will just wear the appropriate look that bridesmaid must show.
How about you? What's your opinion regarding this matter?
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Anyways, here's my previous blogs:
it is important to be considerate of course day niya yan , nila ng groom so give it to them..maybe sa kasal nalang ni bridesmaid magpa ganda ng bongga..hehe