The wife who wants to show her husband that she likes him—that she is his
friend—will be patient with his strange request to “just come out here and be
with me. Watch what I am doing, or just watch TV with me, but let’s not talk.”
When the husband calls the wife in to “just sit by him,” he is working on their
relationship in a significant way not significant to her, perhaps, but extremely
significant, nonetheless. This is the way a husband communicates. Males prefer
shoulder-to-shoulder communication instead of face-to-face communication,
and this can occur in the simplest of ways. For example, a while back my husband and I were in the house and he was just quiet, working on his laptop though, seated close to him I said, "is someone here waiting to catch a noise maker?" "Why are we so quiet? Should we not be talking?" He just chuckled and said, we're together and we are good laidat 😁 😀 😀...
Your Husband Will Feel You Value His Shoulder-to-shoulder Friendship
When . . .
• you tell him you like him and you show it (he knows you love him, but
he often wonders if you really like him)
• you respond to his invitation to engage in recreational activities together
or you come along to watch him (you don’t have to go every time, but just
now and then will energize him more than you realize).
• you enable him to open up and talk to you as you do things shoulder to
shoulder.
• you encourage him to spend time alone, which energizes him to
reconnect with you later.
• you don’t denounce his shoulder-to-shoulder activities with his male friends to get him to spend more face-to-face time with you. Respect his friendships, and he will be more likely to want you to join him shoulder to shoulder at other times.
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