Patience in marriage

29TH MARCH, 2022.

Good day friends. How are you today? I believe you are doing well.

I was opportuned to be with some married mothers and father last weekend. They were discussing about patience in marriage. I was eager to learn from what they were saying. A particular woman said that when she first got married, she usually gets angry and irritated at little things. She said she was very impatient whenever someone distracts her attention. She would shout at the person to leave. Her husband suffered for her impatient during the first six months of their marriage. She said she later discovered that the inpatient behavior will not help her marriage at all. She said during that time, anytime she has the opportunity to talk to God, her only prayer request was that God should take away the spirit of impatience and give her the spirit of patience.

From her words, I can see that patience is key in every marriage. We all have to learn this priceless virtue to have a successful and peaceful marriage.

Let's take a look at this practical example.

Since you have been using your phone, has it ever hanged? Does it get stuck on a page? What did you do while the page got stuck? Didn't you wait? Did you smash your phone on the ground? Of course, no. That should also be applied to marriage too. At the end, your patience will yeild a positive result when the page eventually loads.

In marriage, you have to be patient with your spouse, children, in loves(in-laws) and parents.

The first step to being patient in marriage is to identify why you are impatient. Impatience can be caused by stress. You might have had a busy day and then you need to rest but your children or spouse needs your attention. You become impatient whenever they asked too much. You have to relate with your family patiently.

Impatience can also be caused by lack of control of the use of technology. Whenever I am using my Android device, I usually don't desire any disturbance from anyone. But when you are married, you have to settle the needs of your family first before you will have sufficient time for the technology especially at night and you will also need to limit its use so as to enhance your patience. For your spouse and kids to get more of your attention, you have to limit the use of phone.

When you expect a lot of things from your spouse and he or she is not living up to your expectations, you end up being impatient. You get tensed up and shout at your spouse unintentionally.

I believe you have learnt something from this. If you know any other way to be patient in marriage, feel free to share with us in the comments section.

Thanks for your time. Have a nice day.