Bigger Family? No Problem!

It's already been 15 years since our late father passed away. So, my mother was the one who took all the responsibilities left from my father. However, through God's help, she made it. 

By the way, we are 12 in the family excluding our parents. Two boys and ten girls. Look, how hardworking our parents were because they made us up to 12. Hahaha lol. A one-dozen healthy eggs. hahaha. Well, it is not bad at all.

Being one of them is not that easy because I have to adjust, understand, respect, and obey what they say so that everything is just smooth sailing especially to our dear mother. It's not easy at all because you have a lot of things to consider from your decision to theirs. You have to do your part and also be responsible for your own doings. The advantage of having a bigger family is that they are there to support you. You have someone to run after when you are in need. You have someone to call up to when you are in an emergency. You are being safe and secured because you have your siblings with you.

I am blessed that I do have siblings that are very confirming in my decision and plans in life. They are there to help me reach my plans and be into reality. They even help me to find ways to solve my problems when I feel so down. I am fortunate that they encourage me to just keep going in life even if we have now our own little family. We still keep in touch and greet each other and ask each other if everything is all good in life. Messenger chat is a really big help for us because this is one of the ways to reach out to each other through chats ad video calls. We used this because I have siblings that live far away from our home or province. They are in Luzon and most of us are here in our province in the Visayas. So, this app is very helpful to us as a sign of communication.

However, as 2nd to the last member of the one-dozen eggs, I have to accept the fact that I have so many opinions and ideas to agree with. Each of us has our perspective, principles, dreams, goals, and vision in life. We have different likes and dislikes for such things and stuff to understand. We have an unrelated point of view that makes us unique and special in our little ways.

I cannot deny the reality that sometimes we come to a situation where our feelings are being touched. Or shall I say affected, especially when there are things that need to be decided in union but there are still some of the members who cannot go with the flow or cannot adapt to the situation itself. Just like making plans on how to have a better way to help each other's life but there is this: someone will contradict and have his/her opinion that we don't like. This will turn out to be a misunderstanding to the whole family. 

There was one time when my wedding was fast approaching, I had to decide regarding the reception. What I liked was that it should be held in a place where I wanted to but sad to say because we are a big family, I had to accept suggestions and ideas from my siblings as a sign of respect. Even if we (myhusband) don't like the place they suggested, I agreed with them because they are my sibling. They are more experienced than me. I need to say "okay" even if it opposes what really what I want. I just follow them because I want to have a peaceful and happy wedding. I want everyone to be on good terms. No conflicts.

But hey, the good thing about being in a big family is that happiness is there. Laughs are everywhere. Even the irritating noise of the kids is everywhere when we are gathered together. We are a kind of family that most of the time are gathered in one place especially if there are a birthday celebration and wedding anniversaries. We usually prepare food to eat and everything we can offer to everybody. After that, the party began. Hehehe 😁

We are a kind of family that food is the number one source of our happiness. It made us gather together and have time to bond with each other while eating. We have random talks and chikas anything about what's the latest news in our place and so on. In fact, it is happier to be with them. I am so blessed that I do have them. I know that we have different behaviors, flaws, and imperfections. We even have a bad attitude that sometimes we come to the point that we have to set our pride and forgot all the conflicts before. Just to move forward and start a new one. We don't need to prolong our conflicts or fights because we know that it is not healthy for our family. We remain humble for the sake of our mother too. We forgive and forget. We love each other and that is all that matters. 🤗

That would be all for today. Thank you for reading this regarding my family. God bless you all. Shalom! 🙏

Date published: February 12, 2022
Blessed Author: Thania05📝
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