Toxic & Healthy Love: I Can't Live Without You

I know how this toxic love feels because I've been there with previous "flings". I know how and what attachment have caused me, it's detrimental and was a havoc to me emotionally and mentally.

I was fighting for the "wrong reasons and persons".

When I was in the wrong persons I was always doubting myself or overthinking, I was not in my normal behaviour or right thinking, my favorite line before was that "I can't live without you, without him or that." (Even though I have lived for decades without them, and I've existed before meeting them😅).

While browsing one day on youtube I saw this topic and statement and it's wall got my attention, aside from the church's last sunday talk that "Love is patient- don't rush too much, you'll know it, you might be getting the person not meant for you & deep within your good heart with God's guidance you'll know it's true".

I have read this line from a preacher influencer on youtube and he said

"Toxic love will say I can't live without you."

I remember the word "AMBIVALENCE".

This term is a talk in the "town" when we are not so sure of what, which or who to choose whether men or things 😂. Ambivalence means confusion (and I hope it's not over confusion on your part haha).

There was an instance where we were buying some stuff at the mall. I was looking for one simple foot sandal and because of the "almost unlimited" options of foot slippers surrounding me (those were the days that I didn't stay long yet in Manila & shopping is not familiar) I had a hard time deciding of which one to pick and buy 😂.

Time and hours went quick and fast and I had none in my hand. I wasn't able to picked any sandal and went home almost broken hearted for buying no sandal for my feet. I was broken hearted, but it was just about the slipper, how much more if it was about a boyfriend whom I had emotional connection with for years?

Soul and physical ties if not done with the right men or women intended for us by all heavens, is chaotic, painful, insecure, demanding and imbalance, even if at the beginning it seems alright or peaceful and romantic. I knew it cause I've been there. We'd rather have relationships normal "issue" in between that will make us grow rather than having a lying-"silent" starter that brings the relationships into unGodly end.

Fighting for the wrong men brought me unpeaceful mind and heart, troubles that I thought wouldn't be there as I was keeping the relationships not meant for me, in my conscience I know it was wrong, (even living with a man you're not married yet was bothering me before) I was being convicted spiritually but, I was even (a little) running after a "family man". It mustn't, it shouldn't.

Soul and physical ties doesn't mean they are the one, at least in my case, in my experience, I don't know yours, the good Voice inside you will guide you through.

Thanks to the Lord I know that created everything because He gave me a new heart not far from Him but close enough and in union, aligning in His teachings and ways.

Being called again and born from above, it brought order and balance in me & I know most of our readers too (except those that are out of our spiritual belief).

I'm decades now and I have unique lessons and have learned it the hard and easy ways. Both.

I can speak from experience and the young ones I can see, some will learn hard things due to being hard headed and frozen hearts apart from God's will = God's heart+ Your humble heart = Oneness = One Will discerning.

I knew it.

Healthy love on the other hand may appear having the same syptoms of "toxic love" but you will know it, you'll know if it will last long, cause the Lord made it happened, the source is the foundation.

Ups and downs, peace or inorder, there is spiritual CLARITY not AMBIVALENCE.

"Healthy love line:

I can live with you because I love the life God has provided and blessed me with!

Through it, I honor and respect this Union."

What a beautiful offer to glorify the Lord.

Healthy love knows what being whole or complete means. Inspite of the stories that both persons will encounter, in and out of their relationship, each may fail or make mistakes but in the end this one will focus on good solutions (or they may have better words for it, I don't know).

Let's us work on having a loving relationships above and to ourselves, then by having this overflowing cup of love, by the grace from above, we can love the other person the way God wants it to be, just like IN THE BEGINNING, IN THE LIGHT.

Here's cheering on you identifying which is your toxic and healthy connection or relationship,

SuperJulalaine💗

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