This time, please yourself.

Date: January 31,2022
Author: Sequoia

"Hey, can I borrow your phone?"

"Yeah, sure."

"Will you go with me to the canteen?"

"No problem. Let's go."

"Are you free tonight? Can you make this project for me?"

"Ahh, yeah, sure. I'll give it to you tomorroe."

"It isn't enough, study more!"

"Yes, mom. I will make to get the highest rank for you."

"I don't like that course, take engineering!"

"But, I love this course dad."

"I don't care. Just do what I say!"

"Y-yes, d-dad."

"Hey, friend. It's been a while. Can I borrow a money? I need it."

"Hmmm, hello. Do you really need it badly? Because I have something important to purchase with this money."

"Yes, friend. I super need it "

"I am so sorry. As much as I wanted to lend you some cash right now, I just can't. I also need it. Please understand me, friend"

"Tss. What a useless and greedy person. Don't think about it anymore. I don't need your help. Selfish!"

"Wait! Please understand me."

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Back then, I used to be a people pleaser kind of person. Despite of having a lot of things in my plate, I always make myself available to everyone around me. Afraid to say no and be called selfish. I grow up with a mindset that I need to say yes always just to labelled as a kind human being.

I wanted to make a lot of friends and I must admit, I really want to help others because it gave me so much happiness whenever I was able to help someone before.

Aside from that, I always feel the need of explaining myself. The desire to correct each person whenever they accused me of something.

And then, maturity and realizations hit me so hard that I seem to get back to my senses.

From being so conscious of what the other people may say towards me, i learned to pay more attention on what my heart is saying.

I have seen how a single no, have changed my life big time. It revealed my so-called friends their true colors and intention.

It is indeed true that some people will only be kind to your when you are still beneficial to them. They are like parasites. As long as they can get something from you, they will mak eyou feel important.

As the time passes by, I became less and less interested with what they may say towards me. I let them think what they want.

You have to realize that you are not born to please them. Not here to be their puppets. You have a life to live and principles to stand on. Explaining yourself to each person is tiring, so let them think and do what they want.

Focus on your own growth. You aren't responsible with their peace, but you are responsible with yours. Start living your according to how you want to live it.

Because no matter what you do, or how kind you are, people will always have something to say against you.

Stop pleasing others.

Start pleasing yourself.

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Author's Viewpoint

A wonderful morning people! How are you all? Please bear with my inactivity yesterday. Imma make it up to you all today. Anyways, I hope that I can already process my atm today and so, I have to be early. Have an amazing day ahead guys! Xoxo!

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