Parents have work to do after getting children. Many parents have failed in this, thus woes, shame, and unrest mind come instead of blessing and pride.
This failure comes due to lack of essential knowledge, love of wealth, laziness, accepting wrong philosophy and doing it wrongly.
Some parents do not have the right knowledge about parental care. It is humanly compulsory for parents to care and train their children. The desire to get rich makes some parent neglect the caring of their children. They use all the day trading. Children’s care is burdensome to them. This makes some fathers and mothers avoid their children and therefore deny them the opportunity of being trained by their own parents.
The philosophy of some people on parents and children relations contributes to the inefficiency. Some feel that parents should e rulers and children servants to their parents.
Others say that parents should be servants to the children. They should not control the children but obey them. Some look at child’s discipline as cruelty. They feel parents rob their children of their fundamental rights (freedom to do what you like) by correcting them when they are wrong.
However, some people are doing their duties but in a wrong way. They do them by pampering, harming and corrupt their children, either verbally or physically. These are done by giving them bad food, not having bed for them, not clothing them properly, not caring about their health and extreme discipline. Examples are giving them whatsoever they like even though it is harmful, cutting them with knife, using them for hawking all the time and leaving them to ram about without caution. These are not good and commendable on the part of the parents.
The basic needs of children are physical, mental, emotional and social.
Physical needs; this embraces food, clothing, health and shelter. Parents ought to provide good food, cloths to cover their bodies, take care of them when they are sick and see they have house for them to live in.
Mental development; parents should take time to help their children develop mentally. Have time to talk with them, to learn what they are thinking about and to tell them things they would like to know. Send them to school when they grow up and provide whatsoever they need for their education.
Emotional development; this have to do with their emotions. Parents need to be to them to make them feel happy. They should show them love equally and make them feel they are wanted in the home. Parents ought to help them control their emotions. Appreciate what they do well and for you. Communicate with them when they are away from you through letter, phone and visit.
Social needs; children need to know how to behave in the community and interact well with other people. Parents ought to teach them how to respect elderly people, listen quietly when people are speaking and answer with a proper tone. They have to learn how to greet and show interest in visitors. Likewise, they should be friendly and love to share their play things, parent must encourage them to be punctual, helpful appreciative and have attitudes of thankfulness. They need to know the necessity to assist the handicapped and share with the less privileged. Allow them to attend and participate in wholesome social gathering.
Discipline involves instruction, training and punishment, you have to instruct and train children before you punish them. Punishment comes when they refuse to obey instruction and follow the training given.
This can be done by expecting them to honor and obey instructions from you. Likewise expect them to contribute to the home. You have to instruct and advise them. Assist them to develop good habits and good relationship with others. Praise them for good relationship with others, praise them for good work and be a good example to them.
Let your demand be clear and specific. Likewise let them know the reason for punishing them. The punishment must be prompt and enough to be felt. Do not hurt them as you punish them. There should be no form of physical abuse or violence. Avoid discipline in anger and cursing your children. Do not be partial in your punishment. Do not demand for many things at the same time. Punishment could be corporal and word rebuke.
Continue to discipline a child until he leaves or stops the bad habits. Let the child pay back the stolen things or go and apologize if he offended somebody.
Avoid poor ways of discipline such as making idle and unethical threats, cursing and inconsistence in discipline. Do not boast of your children’s disobedience, neither should you praise them when they are doing wrong.
Do not be too busy that you would not have time to discipline your children. Do not leave child discipline for your husband or wife alone. Good discipline brings rest of mind, joy and pride to the parents. It makes a child wise, forsake foolish things and walk in the right path when they grow.
Children are treasured gifts from nature and should be nuctured and well trained against the future for a better world.
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