Living in good harmony with in-laws and relations

In-laws are the parents and relatives of your spouse. Relations are people related to the couple either by birth or extended family. Since a couple ecame one, they cannot separate from their in-laws and relations. Infact, they need to be embraced without any discriminations.

Just like in every sphere of life, there are both bad and good in-laws and relations. What we want to consider is the right reactions to either type of in-laws we may have and the in-laws atitude toward their son and daughter in-laws.

The respomsibility of son and daughter in-laws

• Accept them as your own people. Have sincere love for them.

• Give them due respect and have good interaction with them

• Have joint care for them

• Never allow them to direct your family affairs

• Utilize their good advices and politely reject their admonitions that doesn’t seem right to you

• Avoid reporting all the misunderstandings with your partner to them or everything that happen in the family

• If they have to stay with you, strive to have a separate apartment for them. Have visiting time to them.

• Do not love them more than your partner

• Do not have love affair with any of them.

• If any of them is trying to make you have unbecoming relation with him/her, reject firmly.

• Be peacemaker if any of the relatives have dispute with your partner

• Do not make it as habit to run to them when you have every single misunderstandings or dificulties with your spouse

• Welcome them to your house and entertain them as much as you can afford.

• If any of your inlaws brought accustions against your partne to you, do not judge nor take side immediately. Appease the grieved person, then find out from your lover what actually happened. If your partner is guilty, let him/her know and encourage them to apologize. If the accuse is guilty with respect llet him or he know his/her faults.

• Encourage your children to recognize, visit, assist and respect them.

Responsibility of parents inlaws to son and daughter inlaws

• Accept them as your own son and daughter

• Love and seek their progress physically and spiritually

• Give them good advices and rebuke them when they do wrong

• Do not take side when they have misunderstanding, try to settle and be peacemaker.

• Do not try to control their family nor perform their family duties for them.

• Do not seek to know all the things they were doing their home

• Do not plan to harm them but seek to protect them

• Do not maltreat the wife.

• Give the husband due respect by not treat him as novice

• Do not encourage the to divorce nor ask any of them to pack their load and stay with you because of quarreling unless, in the case of physical abuse

• Do not make undue demands from them. Remenber they have family of their own to cater for. Accept whatsoever assistance they can give to you. Never accuse any of them, when they cannot help you as you want.

• If any one offend you, call him/her and settle it. Whenever you too offend them, do not feel ashame to apologiz. Do not have any grudge against any of them nor try to revenge for the wrong they have committed against you or your family and son or daughter

• Keep them informed about opportunities open for their progress and assist them to get benefit out of them. For an example, job ot investment which can help them earn for their living.

• Alert them of any danger coming against them and in teir surrounding. So that they will escape from the peril

• When they become widow or widower, do not rob them of their inheritances in the family. Likewise, refran from torturing the widow nor give them wrong accusations. Do not drive her out of her husband’s house and take their children including her husband’s properties. Take care of her and their children.

Words are powerful, they can change people. Nature has endowed us with the ability to produce and utilize these powerful tools. But the question now is, are we going to use our words to hurt others or use them to heal and preach the message of love for a better world? I chose the later which is why I'm always writing and sharing these articles with you. And I believe you are doing yours in your own little way.

Let Love lead.!

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