No one has it all

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23/8/21 QueenRay 

Can we have it all?

I don't think so.

No, I do not think one Can Have It All. The idea of having everything we want out of life is flawed, and we should try as much as possible to deal with it.

As you continue to progress in your career and life in general, there are more responsibilities and opportunities that would be tossed at you.

Nobody has it all figured out at all, especially not the people who act as if they do and judging you because of it. Trying to pretend to be something you are not because you want to please some judgmental hypocrites is not the way you can live happily. Living the kind of life you want to live is really good.

Nobody has it all figured out at all, in the terms of their businesses, their health, their relationships, their money, and even their LIFE.

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Life itself can be said to be a struggle. No matter how much ideal or good your situation is, sooner or later you’re going to be faced with much more suffering.

What increases or compounds the problem is your deepest belief that you keep a secret, thinking that almost everybody else is doing so much better than you are.

That’s because they present themselves to the world as the best of their kind, they show this through pictures and status updates, one that will project how they wish to be perceived not how they really are or how they really feel inside, just the same as you do.

Do not compare yourself unfavorably

People who are battling with struggles in order to improve their lives, those who are committed to changing some aspects of their situations which they have come to see as difficult, can’t help but compare themselves unfavorably to those who appear to have it all together. It seems very unfair that some people have things so easy.

Do you really need to everything, do you need to have it all?

The pressure to have it all is so strong and very present on social media, which is in itself nearly inescapable these days. Your see you ex-school mates, your friends, even your neighbours are all showing themselves right in your face with their daily posts.

Even if they are not doing that, the captions you see under their photos on their status are more funny than the ones you post and they even do not have any typos.

And you still know that your girlfriend's bra always match the underwear they wear. Meanwhile you're right here trying to find a pair of socks which does not have any holes in them for you to wear.

We all in one way or the other have to make choices and we all have to live with the choices we make.

And the last thing we need to face is the act of feeling pressured, which makes us look a certain way, or worse, to make moves that don't feel right just to feel like we're doing what we really ought to be doing.

The woman who has a career but have no kids, someone who is cool, and does not have to worry at all about how people will react when she says so. Same for a mother who loves the fact that she can stay at home and be with her children always. 

How can you really have it to satisfaction?

Are you worried that you don't have it all, or that you do but you're not doing it as well as you should be. Are you filled with fear or fidgeting? It's a fear of not meeting up to standards or meeting up to expectations.

But here are three things I think we should know which is more important than worrying about how we should be living.

1. Be honest at all times

Maybe there's a particular thing or a type of career you don't want. Maybe you want to journey all around the world and ensure you work as needed, write your plans and enjoy your life forever. If this honestly feels like the best of life  you want, go ahead with it but do it honestly.

2. Be flexible as well

All your wants and needs will change even as you progress in life and so also will your idea of what "happiness" means, to you. Well that's OK!!!. Do not imagine that you have to figure out all your answers now, and don't assume that the answers you do find will always serve you best. Life changes, and you're allowed to too.

3. Be YOURSELF so matter what you face.

Do not give yourself to worry about how your life seem to someone else or better put how someone else view your life. They are not you. Your happiness is no one's business but yours. You centre your happiness around someone else's definition of what happy should be.

Nobody has it all figured out at all.

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Hmm, I'm blessed by this article. It really made me overcome peer pressure. I'm never gonna compare myself with anyone.

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2 years ago

No one can really have it all so we don't need to compare our lives to someone who we think has it all. Let's just live our lives being happy. Life is short. Just enjoy.

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2 years ago

Unfortunately, many because of their ego, affluent and high self-esteem think they have arrived at their peak and seem in their mediocre mind think that they have it all. Thanks for sharing, giving necessary satisfaction, and reminding us that we can't have it all.

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The only thing that I'm keeping on my mind, is to have all the things that I prayed for. I know that we can't have anything we want, if it's not God's plan. That's why we should focus for now on the things that we must prioritize, just like those three things you have mentioned .

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2 years ago

Personally i can relate with these i always speak truth and always a honest person which give me alot of benefit in life

Never demanded everything i always think if it's right for me then I'll get if not then it's okay

I always try to be myself and ignore other always try to find my own mistake,journey and path but there's always someone who's ready to say bad and hurt but ignoring is best option.

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2 years ago

Never feel pressured, some people don't really have what they flaunt... Thank you for this

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That's it. Be flexible. We should know when to let go of things or not to give up. Just pray for guidance and wisdom

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We can't have it a and even figured out everything. Life doesn't work that way. If there's a person who have it all, then I pressume that he never aim for more. But human as we are, we always have this nature were when we have more, we want more. Let's just be happy and contented to the things we have in our lives.

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2 years ago

Nobody is perfect, and no one can have it all. The fact is, the more we have, the more we want. You wished you had a motorcycle when you walked to work. You got the bike, no you want a car. Then you got a car, now you want the latest model of another brand or a private jet. Man's need, an insatiable depth.

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2 years ago

Thank you for this piece

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2 years ago

You welcome 😘

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2 years ago

Lets choose to be happy everyday, we dont live to please everyone 👍

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2 years ago

We can't even please everyone in life.

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It's more like an anthem I sing to myself everyday. Nobody's got it all figured out. That's why it's almost useless and ignorant to be trying to please anyone or changing one's beliefs to suit those of another. The comparison that arises as a result of pressure can also be done away with if we understand that life is a composite of turns.

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2 years ago

You are right bro. Comparing one's-self to others is bad.

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2 years ago

No one has it all figured out indeed. Life is as such. We uncover what it has for us. And we don't need to compare ourselves with others. If we do, we should use it to better ourselves and not to be bitter.

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You are right. Many people make mistakes of comparing themselves to others whom they don't even know their source of wealth.

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Truth... :)

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It Is not possible that a person has it all, never possible. The reason why we are created is to help out each other with what we are not able to get. What I am not able to get is what my neighbour or friend find it easy to get, so why not lend a helping hand to each other. We should be ourself and stop following social media life, they don't have all what we see at all.

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2 years ago

Exactly. Thanks for adding to it. We cannot have it all.

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You are welcome ma

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Not everyone has it all, those that feels they do have it all end up lacking so much that they know it not. Pride has make many feel they can own everything but they got all for nothing - the more you think you have the less you know you need...

Peace...

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Exactly 💯. Thanks for contributing

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