23/8/21 QueenRay Can we have it all?
I don't think so.
No, I do not think one Can Have It All. The idea of having everything we want out of life is flawed, and we should try as much as possible to deal with it.
As you continue to progress in your career and life in general, there are more responsibilities and opportunities that would be tossed at you.
Nobody has it all figured out at all, especially not the people who act as if they do and judging you because of it. Trying to pretend to be something you are not because you want to please some judgmental hypocrites is not the way you can live happily. Living the kind of life you want to live is really good.
Nobody has it all figured out at all, in the terms of their businesses, their health, their relationships, their money, and even their LIFE.
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What increases or compounds the problem is your deepest belief that you keep a secret, thinking that almost everybody else is doing so much better than you are.
That’s because they present themselves to the world as the best of their kind, they show this through pictures and status updates, one that will project how they wish to be perceived not how they really are or how they really feel inside, just the same as you do.
Do not compare yourself unfavorably
People who are battling with struggles in order to improve their lives, those who are committed to changing some aspects of their situations which they have come to see as difficult, can’t help but compare themselves unfavorably to those who appear to have it all together. It seems very unfair that some people have things so easy.
Do you really need to everything, do you need to have it all?
The pressure to have it all is so strong and very present on social media, which is in itself nearly inescapable these days. Your see you ex-school mates, your friends, even your neighbours are all showing themselves right in your face with their daily posts.
Even if they are not doing that, the captions you see under their photos on their status are more funny than the ones you post and they even do not have any typos.
And you still know that your girlfriend's bra always match the underwear they wear. Meanwhile you're right here trying to find a pair of socks which does not have any holes in them for you to wear.
We all in one way or the other have to make choices and we all have to live with the choices we make.
And the last thing we need to face is the act of feeling pressured, which makes us look a certain way, or worse, to make moves that don't feel right just to feel like we're doing what we really ought to be doing.
The woman who has a career but have no kids, someone who is cool, and does not have to worry at all about how people will react when she says so. Same for a mother who loves the fact that she can stay at home and be with her children always.
How can you really have it to satisfaction?
Are you worried that you don't have it all, or that you do but you're not doing it as well as you should be. Are you filled with fear or fidgeting? It's a fear of not meeting up to standards or meeting up to expectations.
But here are three things I think we should know which is more important than worrying about how we should be living.
1. Be honest at all times
Maybe there's a particular thing or a type of career you don't want. Maybe you want to journey all around the world and ensure you work as needed, write your plans and enjoy your life forever. If this honestly feels like the best of life you want, go ahead with it but do it honestly.
2. Be flexible as well
All your wants and needs will change even as you progress in life and so also will your idea of what "happiness" means, to you. Well that's OK!!!. Do not imagine that you have to figure out all your answers now, and don't assume that the answers you do find will always serve you best. Life changes, and you're allowed to too.
3. Be YOURSELF so matter what you face.
Do not give yourself to worry about how your life seem to someone else or better put how someone else view your life. They are not you. Your happiness is no one's business but yours. You centre your happiness around someone else's definition of what happy should be.
Nobody has it all figured out at all.
Hmm, I'm blessed by this article. It really made me overcome peer pressure. I'm never gonna compare myself with anyone.