Someone needs help.

Just as they say "Birds of the same feather flocks together". I have experienced this and I have done myself good to alleviate from such in my life.

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I have known that our friendship won't last long because when a friendship is directing you in a negative path, what do you do? Wouldn't you do yourself the good to withdraw? Do you still want to continue while it's deteriorating your personality? It's a choice you have to choose from and taking the right decision will be the best for you.

"Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are."

This is a dictum used by everyone in the society because when you are associated with the wrong person, you will imitate the person's lifestyle especially when you are someone who is feeble and weak in mind to refrain from every order given by the person. Just because you want to please them, you start walking in their path and at the end, you become like them.

Yoruba will say "aguntan to baja rin, yo je igbe" this means that a sheep who walks with dogs will eat feaces because that is how dogs are. They eat faeces.

I did myself good to refrain from this lady who I already knew we won't last long because of her behavior. For Christ's sake, how will a friend advised me to bribe a lecturer to pass? How will someone I thought was my friend advised me to always choose the smooth road to make it instead of making efforts so I can understand the pain in it? How will someone I considered as a friend tell me to involve myself in examination malpractice? Can't I just read and write with my own knowledge instead of cutting corners?

I withdrew immediately before she influences me negatively.

She stopped greeting me for long even after I kept talking to her. I didn't want to move out completely but our friendship isn't going the right way. She is living her life to depend on a guy who she thinks would help her out during exams and because of that, she stopped greeting me. Do I care? She has even made it easier for me. We live in the same compound but we aren't in talking terms. God sees my heart that I do not have any grudges against her, it's just that I don't want to associate myself with people like her.

Be with people who brings out the best in you and not the worst in you.

SOMEBODY NEEDS HELP. DO YOU THINK I SHOULD COME IN FOR HER?

Here comes my title of the post. Please read carefully and let me know your views.

There is this lady, let me use her as "Sarah" for the sake of this article. We both live in the same compound and even offering same course. When we knew ourselves in 200 level, we do pray at night together. She is always punctual to school and very brilliant. I know she is brilliant and intelligent which I love and admire People like her. I want same goal and ambition people around me and not those who would ruin my life and personality.

When we did our first and second semester's examination, her results were so beautiful, likewise my own. I have two other friends who will have been together right from 200 level as Psychologists in training.

Remember, I was talking about a friend who I withdrew from? She was with us then and we were four in numbers then. Suddenly, she starts leaving our group because she has found a guy who she now calls "School Father". She didn't tell us her reason for leaving us and we never bothered asking her. It is her wish and she has her reasons. At least we are three left and doing fine. Till today, our results have been good to the glory of God.

Now back to Sarah. All of a sudden in 300 level, she became glued to this my friend and they started walking together. When the first semester examination in 300 level came, both my friend and her school father depended on Sarah during the exams. She was the one feeding them with answers and when the result came out, her result were not good but those she helped did well. How come? They went behind her to pay lecturers but they left her. She wasn't observant. She kept on mingling with them.

Sarah started going to school late with them. She now started bringing in soft answers for test. In fact her second semester wasn't good at all. We know our matric numbers and all results are always sent together. This was how I do track their results. Still, Sarah wasn't observant. She has changed totally ever since her movement with this friend.

My question now is "Couldn't she come ask me why I didn't move with this friend anymore?"

My other two friends also noticed this sudden change in her and something in me want to go and meet her to talk to her in a polite manner so she doesn't think I want to come in between her and my friend.

We are in 400 level now. Should I go and meet her? Should I open her eyes to things she isn't observing in herself?

Some said I don't need to go since she isn't a small girl not to notice such change in her. It might implicate me at the end because she might go and report me to my so called friend. I had to change my mind.

I hope her results this semester will be good because these people still depend on her and at the end, they will go and meet lecturers and forget about her who had helped them. Is that life?

Why didn't they help her also? Now, it is now a matter of "On your own"

Know the kind of friends you pick on your journey of life. There are those who will work together with you to achieve your purpose while others will jeopardize your purpose if you aren't careful. Both sides have lessons to teach us. Be careful.

I remembered similar situation during my NCE programme in school then, I had to cut myself off such friendship before it implicated me. When I was graduating, this friend had many carry overs and result in extra year for her. I don't know what happened next if she finished then but thank God I made my decision then.

Same thing is about to happen again but it's not too late to cut the ties again because I already did.

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|September 27, 2021|