Yeahhhhh, I was about to publish my article for today when I saw my notification of another sponsor being added to my blog. This is another day with happiness in me. Thanks to @Jane
So, let's move on to today's topic......
Who doesn't want an happy marriage? Everyone does want it and many times, so many people find themselves being trapped into a marriage they never planned for and because of that, they find it regretful for the rest of their lives if they do not have any option than to stick to it. So many marriages aren't built on true love while only few are built. A marriage built on deceit isn't marriage at all. Why do I say this? If it were to happen to you, what will you do? Okay, let me share this with you.
I watched an English movie with my friends yesterday, though I never wanted to because I hate to watch movie that I already predict what will happen in the end but after watching it, I decided to make a post about it.
The couple found themselves at the altar making their vows, "for better for worse, for richer for poorer, till death do us part...bla bla bla"
The pastor joined both together and went home for their honeymoon in their beautiful home. The next day, the owner of the house (the boss to the husband) came back from his six months trip and sent them out. The wife was confused and the husband was like "Baby, I am sorry. I am not the owner of this house, it's my boss's". She couldn't believe her eyes. Was she deceived into this marriage? She bursted into tears right from there.
She went to meet her friends and they said "This is marriage built on deceit". Now what will you do as the wife?
What I could deduced from this movie are in two phases:
Perhaps the guy deceived her
Let's say he loves the lady and wanted her to become his wife, he had to take such step since he knew his boss would be coming back after six months and had to take that opportunity to get married to her.
I enquired from my friends what they would do if it happens to them. They both said they will only stick to him if he didn't deceived them.
Do you wanna hear my own side? Okay, grab a seat and let's gist😅😅
IF THE GUY DECEIVED ME, WHAT WILL I DO?
You know there are so many ladies who are being deceived into such all because they are only after the material things and wouldn't want to stay a while to study or even make enquiry more about such guy. I don't think I can ever find myself in such thing but if it happens that way, I will have to quit and file for a divorce letter. To hell with the marriage because the guy wasn't truthful in the beginning and for him to have done such means I will have to regret all my life. For that not to happen, I should find my way out of his life before it is too late. Who vows help? 😅😅
WHAT IF HE DID THAT TO WIN MY LOVE, WHAT WILL I DO?
It's simple. If he later explain everything to me that he doesn't want to lose me because I have wanted a good man with good future and because he wasn't up to my standard or not my kind of guy, but because of true love for me, he had to make use of that six months opportunity to grab what he couldn't afford to lose and claim ownership of the house, then I could reconsider and stand by him.
I will only help him find a good Job and as a wife, I won't relent in looking out on Jobs to help cater our needs. We will start from the scratch and build our own home. I think considering that he really loves me should make me happy to do all of these for me. I would remember my vows and stand by them.
When as a lady, your aim is to settle down with a guy who has it all, and do not want to help build yourselves, you will only be deceived into marriage with him. Most ladies who loves to list everything they wanted in a man, "I want a guy with cars, houses, good physique etc" these kind of ladies are easily deceived and trapped into the Lion's Den that to come out would be hard for them.
There are few guys who because of what the lady wants in them and not real love would enter into such strategy to win the girl over and when they had tied the knot, they reveal who they really are and then, the lady would be said to live in regrets all her life. This do happen especially when the lady is pregnant and given birth. She wouldn't want to leave because they now have children in between them and she suffers all her life. Marriage built on deceit.
Thank you for reading and I am waiting for your response in the comment section. What will you do?
|July 2,2021|
Yes, it is always hard to tag @Jane hahaha. I tagged her in one of my posts and it wasn't working 😂😂🤣😂🤣. Congratulations on your new sponsorship. You are also a good person.
To your post, trust me, it is hard. Naturally, marriages have challenges and no one wants to start off their dream marriage based on lies and deceit. Like you have said, I would just ask the lady honest questions like:
Why do you love him? Do you think he is someone that would love to build again with you? I would love to know why the man was attracted to him that made him lure her into the deceit. Was it because the lady was wealthy and he wanted to match it? There are so many underlining factors and things to deal with if I will ever advice the two of them to stay together because when more challenges comes and they think love can get them through, she will see herself referencing that moment of deceit and you can't blame her.
This is the whole essence of courtship - to get to know the person to some extent before marriage and that's why marriage should never be rushed. Take your time,be sensitive, watch out for the warning signs, go into a relationship with your head and your heart so you can balance things and won't be swept away with emotions.
Okay, let me stop right here. 🙈