I want stability in a man.
“The greatest thing you'll ever learn is to love and be loved in return.”
Yesterday, I couldn't believe today will be Saturday. How time flies so quickly! When did we start this week, and we are ending it in a few hours.
This is the reason we should keep going with our goals because time waits for no man. Before we know it, this year will end and we start a new year. Above all, what matters is that we are still alive and breathing. That's something we should always be grateful for because we do not deserve it but it's Grace.
Every lady wants the best, including me. We all want a man who is doing okay, and not the one struggling to make ends meet. Such a guy does not even need to have a girlfriend or fiancee yet, or else, both of them might suffer.
Some ladies have a principle now; if he doesn't have it all, I won't love him. A real man will never accept you too if he discovers the reason you are in a relationship with him.
But despite all of these, don't you think a lady would be deceiving herself if her love is based on a guy's stability? I mean, she is loving the guy for all he has which I would say such love can never last.
A woman also needs to fend for herself and not go with the mentality that the man should provide all for her because they are in a relationship. A lady should work to be independent. At least one plus one makes it two which is better when supporting each other.
Even aside from meeting a man who is in all areas stable, would you still go ahead to cheat on him?
Love shouldn't depend on how much a guy has. Everyone needs to work hard to help each other and not leave the task to the man alone. Even when he has it all, he would still appreciate it when his girlfriend does something for him. Don't just be with an empty brain in your relationship.
Also, cheating when he has everything would make you lose all.
There was a lady in a movie I watched. It was obvious she loved him for his stability. The guy has everything a lady wanted to care for her. He loves her truly but she fucked up when she invited her ex into her fiance's home.
No matter what you do or trying to do, it's risky inviting an ex over to your man's house. What effrontery? If it's with your man's permission, it is still allowed but if not, you don't even have any business with your ex.
Someone ask me a question; Will you still be friends with your ex again?
The thing is this; it's not a bad idea to make friends with your ex after a breakup but be careful. If you cannot handle or control it, you should decline such an idea. It takes a mature person who isn't controlled by anything to do that. Even aside from that, your meeting point should be at an open place and anything aside from that, you are calling for big trouble.
The ex explained he had got a Job and can take care of her. Why did they break up? The lady looked less on him and taught him he wouldn't become someone, and she went for a man who could provide all her needs. She still loves him but didn't have a choice.
The ex wanted her back. They both kissed and that was the end of it.
The real man got to know she was only in his life for his money and nothing else.
Some ladies are just not contented. Even if you are with another person, do away with your feelings for the past relationships and start a new life with someone new.
A man's stability shouldn't determine if you should love him or not. It's bad because such a relationship will never last.
To be sincere, I want a man who would be able to provide for all my needs, but that doesn't mean I shouldn't help too. Not depending fully on him earns me some respect. Don't you think?
Ladies, know what you want in a man first even before you opt into any relationship with him and if you think you just want to spend his money and later leave, that is a bad intention from you.
I was happy to see @fantagira came around yesterday. She renewed my sponsorship which I really appreciate. It's been a while ma, and I hope you are doing good?
Thanks for your time
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[August 27, 2022] (No 238 articles for the year)
Every lady wishes a perfect person in life. Not deceiving type but a caring and loving person indeed. The same is expected by a man. Some relations get well but some break up due to lack of misunderstanding.