Independence, Commitment And Responsibility Are Vital To Becoming An Adult

There is a certain age when you realize, that life isn’t just about pleasing everyone. It’s about standing up for yourself while being true to your principles. When you can do this, you become more powerful and your world is profoundly changed.

When you're a teenager, it's easy to be overconfident, to believe you can change the world and do what you want, even though you're 13 years old and have never held a job and that's just the way it is. Adults come to realize, that their opportunities for independence, personal choices and personal responsibility are limited. By the time you're 18 you know that you must work hard to meet the responsibilities to your family, friends, and community.

The phrase "independent, committed, and responsible" may sound like an attempt at one-way self-help advice, but it's really a call to serve something bigger, than yourself. If these qualities are important to you, find a cause, volunteer, or just give.

Growing up is a difficult process, that can be challenging for participants and onlookers alike. As adults, the struggles with independence and responsibility don’t stop, but the rewards may continue until we die. Our society sometimes has a tough time understanding the concept of maturity. Because it's not always easy to see what goes into growing up and the longer we grow up in our society, the harder it is to actually become an adult.

The Transition Into Independence

Adults are willing to share their wisdom with you, but they're not willing to manage your life. You're past the stage of needing their guidance, but you can still rely on them for support. You're not a minor any more. You can make your own decisions, but you can't make them on your own. You still need their support. You might not need them to hold your hand, but you need them to acknowledge, that you are an adult and that you are in this together.

You are more, than just a group of traits. You are a human being. You have emotions. You have needs. You have a mind. You are capable of independent thought and action. There is so much you don't know and so many things you are unsure of, but you are a person none the less. You must learn to rely on your instincts. You must learn to make mistakes and recover from them. If you don't, you will never grow up.

To do this, you must first decide if you will be making a transition in your life. There are two options before you. You can either continue doing what you've been doing all along, with maybe a slight change in your routine, or you can take a risk and try something new. There is no right answer. They are merely two options. You must choose which you think will have the greatest impact on your future.

Learning To Stand In Your Own Way

You must determine if there is any real benefit from continuing on the path, that you are on. A successful, long life depends on you making the right decision.

The first step towards making that choice is to analyze your routine. What has kept you on this path so far? What has been working in your favor? What has been keeping you from branching out? What are you good at? What are you bad at?

Then, you must take note of all the factors, that could possibly affect your future. What skills do you have, that might be useful to others? What knowledge do you have, that could be helpful to others? What connections do you have, that could lead to other useful contacts?

The last thing to do is to think about your relationships. Who does your money, time and energy go towards? Do you really need to spend time with people, that make you unhappy?

After doing all of this, you will have a much clearer idea of what you are capable of and what you like to do. You will be able to define your own limits. These are the things that you need to keep in mind, when making your decision. They are not easy, but they are necessary. They will help you think clearly and correctly.

Finding The Inner Strength To Stand Up For Yourself

To find your inner strength to stand up for yourself, requires to know your own values. If you don't know your own values, it's only natural that you won't know how to stand up for yourself. It also requires, that you define what you consider a "good life". You must be clear about what that is. You can't get caught up in someone else's idea of what a good life is, if you don't even know what it is yourself.

Your values are the qualities, that define who you are. They are the qualities, that separate you from everyone else. They are also the qualities, that attract people to you. If you want to be happy, you must find your values. Once you have a clear idea what your values are you are ready to stand up for yourself. You are ready to have the freedom to make your own decisions.

Ensuring You Get Obligations In The Right Order

Your first obligation is to your family. You may be young, but your family has already raised you since birth. They invested in your education and training and it's their responsibility to help you succeed in your future. That includes your future adulthood. There are many paths to personal and financial independence, but the first step is always education and that includes your education about money. It's not a bad thing to want things and to be in control of your life. The problem comes when you don't understand the process of getting what you want.

You may have a bad habit of trying to control everything, but you need to start realizing, that some things are out of your control. You can't control the economy, stock prices, or the weather. You can only control how you react to these situations. You must develop a strong sense of self in order to succeed.

A Note On Relationships

While you may have heard the phrase "you don't know what you've got until it's gone" when you are younger, you really must start taking this to heart. Your family, your friends and your partner are all important aspects of your life. Although you may not agree with everything, that they do or think, you surely respect them as unique individuals. You don't try to change them. You only try to change yourself.

Your relationships with your family and friends will naturally change due to the way, that you choose to live your life. You may not always agree with them, but you respect their support and loyalty. Your partner, however, is a different story. Your relationship with your partner will be shaped by the decisions, that you make about your future.

The most important thing to remember though is that you are always responsible for your own decisions. No one else is responsible. You can't place the blame elsewhere. This isn't a matter of being stubborn or not being willing to cooperate. You must cooperate with yourself. You must take full ownership of your own life.

Thank you for reading.