Is It Wrong to Have Sex Before Marriage?Why Do We Have to Wait?

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We are on our master thesis back at Uptrennd University and my topic which has great relevance to the moral issues of our society still boils down to the idea of "premarital sex and chastity." 

I already published part 1 ( https://www.uptrennd.com/post-detail/what-is-wrong-with-sex-before-marriage-why-choose-chastity~ODU4NTc4 and

part 2 (https://www.uptrennd.com/post-detail/what-is-wrong-with-sex-before-marriage-why-choose-chastity-part-2~ODU4ODIw and before coming up with my conclusion for part 3, our chancellor gave me an idea to have a poll to expand how far my topic can go.

As per Part 1, mostly the comments where in reference to my four respondents who have shared their thoughts about my topic. They have the common denominator based on their preference and exposure.

They all agreed in a way that it must be done within the perspective of love and not out of lust as per Dania's statement, my previous student who is now based in Australia, together with a friend who is currently working in the Middle East shared just the same where he said, there's nothing wrong with it because it is "human instinct."

Odette, a nurse by profession and based in Germany, shared that "it's the couple's way to express their love for another."

Aya,a globetrotter, stated that, '"a woman's virginity is for herself alone and not for anyone else. Your body, your rules. It depends on a person's preference and belief."

This is to inform the community that I came up with this topic based on my observation and evaluation of where I am currently living and teaching here in Seychelles.

There's a higher rate of students or teenagers at Pointe Larue alone who got themselves "impregnated" not knowing the full consequence of the act. The reality of early teenage pregnancy increases as per an article of country's National newspaper http://www.nation.sc/archive/259087/strategies-to-prevent-teenage-pregnancies

This has become a dilemma not only for teenagers but those who have a strong standpoint regarding the sanctity of physical union in the context of matrimony alone.

Some people whom I had in contact with personally shared their views, had they did not get pregnant at an early stage of their relationships, they could have had expanded their horizons either into becoming a career-women or being able to do things freely before having a child.

Thomas Aquinas, his Summa Theologia on Marriage and Sex https://theo.kuleuven.be/apps/christianethics/sex/history/h2c.html stated that what makes premarital sex wrong because it can bring the possible child into a situation where it does not have both parents to look after it.! 

Again the consequence of having a baby prior to matrimony especially the couple who are not "ready" for whatever responsibilities it incurs, would sort into the worst scenario of abortion. I remembered when hubby and I went for my prenatal check-up as it was mandatory here, the nurse asked both of us whether it was a planned or unplanned pregnancy?

At once I was wondering what made her asked the question and she clarified that most of the couple she had encountered were having "unplanned pregnancy" and the rest was history.

So the poll that I asked whether " It is Wrong to Have Sex Before Marriage?" got the result of 100% for yes.. none for No and 1 for Maybe. What's your stand on it?

I would like to take a chance to ask our community here what's your view about the poll and whoever can share their most genuine and rational factual opinion with proper sourcing (not less than 80-100 words) would definitely have tips from me and will include it to my part 3.

So are you ready?

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Yes. It's not good sex before marriage.

But as christians I believe we would have a mercy look about it and don't feel bad about every sin or something else.

If you missed, just try to be better and hope you can wait until marriage.

Good post, following you

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3 years ago

By building a relationship and their diverse intimacy which includes spending free time together,talking,constantly getting to know each other and revealing their inner world to each other,the two create relaxation in the relationship and learn to let go.All this is reflected in sexuality.Two people who had allowed themselves to grow side by side,to test themselves and to consolidate themselves through conflicts and interpersonal crises,can also really decide for the relationship and for each other in a completely conscious and rational level.Marriage can be confirmation of this decision.Therefor,marriage is a milestone for sexuality,but at first,the relationship must also be mature enough for marriage.For a good marriage are needed respect,friendship and the acceptance.Sexuality,however,is like a roof that covers solid foundations,but comes at the end. At the beginning of the relationship, you are in the infatuation phase. It is a time of enthusiasm and idealization of the other person. Your partner seems perfect, flawless. Your emotions are going crazy. You experience both strong pleasant and strong heavy emotions. You feel excitement, passion, joy, but also pain, restlessness, jealousy, and longing. Passion awakens in you. You are looking for physical closeness, touches, hugs, kisses… You dream during the day and find yourself with your body at work and your head completely elsewhere.

If you follow the passion at this stage and start having sex, you are very sure to chart the path of romantic, unreasonable love for your relationship. Poor prospects, especially since he usually doesn’t stand the test of time.

You can choose: control the passion or the passion will control you. Don’t make the illusion that engagement and intimacy will come next.If you wait to have sex before marriage,you can be sure: -does he really care about you,if and how he takes care of your relationship,if he take in account your needs,to what extend he is willing to sacrifice.When you control your passion allow intimacy and engagement to develop in your relationship.You offer an opportunity for your relationship to develop to its full potential. I am a Christian and I believe in God,so The Bible forbids us sexual intercourse before marriage.Sex before marriage is just as wrong as sexual immorality because it is all about having sex with a person we are not married to.Sex between a husband and a wife is the only real form of sex.God did not condemn sex before marriage in order to rob us of pleasure,but in order to protect us from unwanted pregnancies and children born to parents who do not want them or are not ready for them.Only rule before marriage is abstinence.It saves lives,protects children and gives sexual relations the right value.

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3 years ago

hey dear I am really blown away at how you have responded to my post. I truly appreciate your comments. If you have Uptrennd account please send me dm via discord as I would like to give you 1Up tip as well. I would include your statement such as, 'If you wait to have sex before marriage,you can be sure: -does he really care about you,if and how he takes care of your relationship,if he take in account your needs,to what extend he is willing to sacrifice." quote and quote in reference to your comment. Thank you for your time sharing your thoughts. This is lovely. Send tip to noisecash as well.

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hey dear I am really blown away at how you have responded to my post. I truly appreciate your comments. If you have Uptrennd account please send me dm via discord as I would like to give you 1Up tip as well. I would include your statement such as, 'If you wait to have sex before marriage,you can be sure: -does he really care about you,if and how he takes care of your relationship,if he take in account your needs,to what extend he is willing to sacrifice." quote and quote in reference to your comment. Thank you for your time sharing your thoughts. This is lovely. Send tip to noisecash as well.

Thank you very much dear.

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3 years ago

"Do not waste your seed"

  • God

What this could mean in reality? Total ban of sexual acts outside marriage? I interpret it differently, it basically says: do not be sedated by the opposite gender, do not be sex-addict, choose very wisely who you have sex with.

If you have a girlfriend or boyfriend for years, then you can have sex with her/him.

But you probably should not sleep around with people in a tinder-style. Do not be sedated by prostitutes, do not give yourself cheaply EVER.

Traditionally, these were advice for girls from their parents, but the bible originally aimed these advice for men. Men is the key and women is the lock? Bible is very clear about it, that even men should not sleep around with random women.

Otherwise, bad things will come upon you: you will be sedated by the chance of having a sex, you will be a white knight who can be controlled by a moan, or an incel - or if you can get into a lot of beds, you will have stds. God despises this.

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3 years ago

hey I am so sorry to have checked on your comment just now @Geri...and yes I agree to what you said regarding the multiple partner which could led you to have stds and this is gruesome. I mean our body is the temple of the holy spirit and sacred so we must respect and take pride of it.

Would love to see you back at noisecash dear. Kindly share your profile link here. Looking forward.

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3 years ago

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3 years ago

Well, look very good at this topic and of much interest, look, I tell you that I am from Venezuela and here before there was that culture, already these days it has been lost but before it was essential that women, eye only women came to the virgin marriage without having any sexual relationship, but for one man did not apply this, I am only 18 years old, and I know this because my parents tell me and it is incredible to see how over the years everything you believe in becomes misses ,

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3 years ago

oh jeez I was not expecting this has been 5 days back @jkv222 kindly share your profile link at noisecash and would love to check on it so I could give tips. true enough virginity for some women is a gift to their spouse and we must respect it. Glad that 18 you manage to stay foot with what you believe is right for you and heading advice from your parents. Don't mess up and experiment. See you back at noisecash okay.

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3 years ago

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3 years ago

Its totally wrong to have sex before marriage, tho in our society today sex has become a common act done in any relationship even our young ones engage in it.

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3 years ago

Oh I know it wasn't right? So, it is?

Char. Lol. I am raised in a very conservative family so for me it is not right, but that does not mean I wouldn't do it. Lol. Haha. Kidding, seriously, in our family we were raised not to engaged in any sexual activities if you and your boyfriend are not yet married. We value our body (for most women, not everyone here though) and maintained it's purity and sacredness. It is by my words of my mother and aunties "the greatest gift you could give to your husband on your wedding night". So I wouldn't agree and encouraged most teenagers to engaged to sex! Don't watched porn omg! Haha. Will just heightened your curiousity about sex, increased your libido and that is bad! Sex can wait. If your lover can't, is he truly for you? This is why I will remain single forever! Lol. Hahaha. Pero walang forever. Hahaha

This is only my opinion and this is how I am raised. So do not hate meeee. :)

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