Destination For A Broken Heart?

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Where do broken hearts go? That is a funny question but there are some elements of truth in it. Anyone who asks such a question as this must have been used to heartbreak. The person had it full and wondered where broken hearts converge and where they console each other before they finally depart.

Being heartbroken is part of life. It can come from a lover, a friend or a family member. We get hurt by people we love the most. Only those who mean something to us can hurt us that deeply. Being hurt is a sign of a sane heart; a heart full of expectations. Without expectations, you can’t get hurt but with expectations come disappointments and with love comes episodes of hurt. There is no one on earth that can ever say he or she has never been heart broken...one way or another.

Broken hearts don’t converge anywhere. Broken hearts goes nowhere. Your broken heart stays with you and then you nurse it, heal and then love again. The only remedy for heartbreak is to love again. Love is a great driving force, capable of making you do what you never thought you could do. True love has no class, age or race barrier.

The people who get hurt the most are the ones that put their heart on the line the most. Why would I get hurt when I actually haven’t sacrificed much? Why would I get hurt over what someone else thinks when I am indifferent to the person or don't know the person that well?

Have you invested so much in a business and there was a big issue along the line? How did you feel, scared, uncertain and fearful? If it eventually crashed there is no denying the fact that you will be broken beyond words, as you would wish there are some decisions you can take back. The same happens in relationship. You can’t invest so much of your heart, body, resources and time and you won’t feel broken when it goes south. You have a stake in it and those investments are something you will never get back, so the hurt is understandable.

There is no way you can avoid being hurt. Your partner in business dealing might hurt you, your close friend will hurt you, and your close-door neighbour will hurt you while your close partner at work won’t be left out...even your boss can hurt you. Hurt can fly from different angles in varying degrees.

The truth is they might hurt you intentionally or not so intentional. Whichever way it is, you need to learn to look past the hurt and know it is part of life. I know sometimes it is hard to look past it, especially when the hurt runs so deep and when it is unexpected. It seems to run deeper than what was done because of the quality of the person who hurt us.

Never give anyone too much power to control how you feel. Make provision for those hurts by forgiving them in advance, for the sake of your sanity. You can’t avoid being hurt. If you are too careful, there are others who will carelessly hurt you. Grow a thick skin sometimes and learn to move on.

A lot of people stopped loving because they were hurt. They retreated into a corner and lose the whole essence of their being. Never become those who hurt you. A lot of people go on a rebound and start going on hurting spree because they felt aggrieved by someone’s action. I heard of a man who was seriously duped in business dealing and he got an opportunity to dupe someone else and he did. Hurt is part of life and we need to learn to move on as quickly as possible.

When someone breaks your heart, you need to learn how to go back to being you. You need to build yourself up mentally. I am not saying it is bad to feel hurt, no, it is never a crime. You are hurt because you can feel, so that is a positive. My advice would be, never put your life on hold because someone hurt you. Don’t give such a person that kind of power. You need to learn that hurt is part of life and don't allow it determine how you turn out.

I have been hurt many times. I have hurt others too, whether intentionally or not, but the truth is, I learn to move on as fast as I can, and also make amends in the long run to those I have hurt. Don't take everything to heart. When people hurt you, it might not even be about you. They might have some internal battles they are contending. Be in control of our emotions.

Thank you for your time.

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