Marriage is the most beautiful thing that can happen in a man or woman's life.

Marriage may be beautiful, but even the most beautiful thing has its problems, and this is because two individuals are involved.

When individuals get married, they both take on different roles due to societal views.

The father, the breadwinner, goes to work, provides for the family, and makes sure they have all basic needs.

The mother, the caregiver, and the homemaker of the family take care of the house and family.

The Problem in Marriage

I dont think I need to tell you this in this day and age, but marriage is fading away, and people are losing interest.

It is hard to see a marriage that stays for ten years; it usually ends in divorce or arguments over properties.

Sometimes, we need to look around, and we will see so many marriages falling apart. The reason? because marriage has become too fixed, if you know what I mean.

I have been researching why marriages have become extinct in the past week.

I agree with some of the reasons, but one of them stuck to me.

The problem that I see happens in marriage is the lack of communication and division of labor.

Recently, I have read stories of how fathers and mothers kill themselves because of their stress in marriage and raising a family on my social media.

I can only imagine the amount of depression the individual must have gone through to warrant suicide.

This article was inspired by @tired_momma article "A Mother's Story" check it out; if you haven't, it needs to be shared.

Her article talked about mothers' marriage problems, and I couldn't agree more with her thoughts.

I think couples should really sit down and talk about marriage because it is not an easy thing. Marriage is said to be till death, so we should really think before saying "I do."

The world has its views on how marriage should be, and that has really destroyed the basics of marriage; I am talking about the responsibilities of both partners. 

As I have written above, the father is the breadwinner and the mother the caregiver.

I genuinely think these predetermined roles are the problems that really make a marriage fail.

Let me give you a scenario, a man goes to work, and a woman takes care of the house and kids. 

These are everyday activities, right but when you look at it, this is one of the biggest problems today, some men only think about work and more work and these are not their fault, this is just the responsibilities society has put on men.

Some fathers hardly communicate with their wives and children because they feel like that is the mother's job, and that is why fathers are usually very strict.

A man can stay in the house all day and watch his wife clean and care for the house. He doesn't help her; society has made it standard for both partners to have responsibilities.

But I think it would be great if both partners could share the responsibilities, which will go a long way.

The husband shouldn't laze around all day while the wife takes care of the house and kids; that is so stressful. I know that because I have taken care of my cousins, and they are a handful.

Imagine taking care of the house and still caring for the children. That is so stressful that I sometimes imagine how mothers do it. Men may be more potent than Women, but mothers are exceptional when it comes down to it

She is willing to sacrifice anything to make sure her children smile and live comfortably. She truly is a priceless gem.

We shouldn't take her for granted. When I see a post about mothers committing suicide, it really is frustrating because it probably would have been prevented if she had someone helping her. 

You can't blame someone for committing suicide because you don't know what they are going through at that moment.

" You can never feel the same pain as another, you can only have a sense of that pain."

Thats why I hate it when I see an inhumane post like, "Just suck it up, everyone is depressed too" I sometimes just want to report and discipline the person, lol. Never judge anyone because you are not the person, and you will never be.

Women should talk with their partners or fiancees before agreeing to marry them because their life depends on it.

There are many single mothers today because they failed to know their partners before accepting them, and this is not only a problem for mothers.

Children also suffer when parents are not there for them, and when a child sees his parents divorce, that can really take a psychological toll on them.

Conclusion

Please, this is to all fathers- Be there for the woman you love, be her support, help her out anytime she needs you because she is the one you chose to love and spend your life with. 

She is not your maid but your soulmate and no matter how busy you are, take some time to support her with the kids and the house.

Thank you for reading, and God bless you!! Have a wonderful weekend!!