Aren't you important also?

Date: 6th March 2022

Happy Sunday, Readers! How are you all doing today? I hope you had a nice Saturday, and I hope you had a relaxing weekend.

It is the end of the weekend, which means it is time to use our bodies and minds for the events of the new week, and we all have to return to our various jobs and activities.

I didn't think I would be writing on this topic, but with the environment, I am in, I finally got the inspiration to write on it because it is something I see every day, and I feel like I should write about it.

"Why do we feel like we need others to validate our existence?"

"Why allow others decisions affect your actions?"

I have noticed that it takes a strong will to keep one's values, especially when surrounded by many people/personalities.

If a person doesn't conform to the norms of their surroundings, then they won't be able to make friends/allies.

I have seen a few scenarios of this in my surroundings because some friends of mine have changed themselves so they can be able to fit into the norms of their surroundings, and while I can't blame them because "fitting in" is part of human nature, I thought to myself.

"Why not be yourself and gain friends/allies that way? Why must you change yourself to get the attention of others? 

I am sure some of us have done this phase of changing ourselves to fit in with others, but have we asked ourselves, "why we do it."

Why do you believe that your true self is not important or amazing enough to gain friends"?

Why do you believe that you have to change yourself to gain the attention of others"? Why not be yourself.

The problem with people is that they want to force relationships to happen no matter what. Even if it comes down to changing themselves to meet the other person's requirements, they are willing to do it because they crave validation from others to survive.

Some people can't live without the approval of other people around them, and the moment they can't get this approval, you see them doing all sorts of things to get it.

I think the problem with most people is that in their minds, they have accepted the fact that they are not important or that others are better than them, and you see this in their actions.

A person who has never smoked, drank alcohol, or taken drugs immediately starts taking them so they can fit in with their so-called friends. They start forgetting their previous values/morals, and eventually, they forget themselves.

This situation also happens a lot in relationships, where one party wants to change their entire self to fit in with the other parties' lifestyle. Sometimes this ends up causing more problems to the relationship because you no longer have an identity anymore.

We all have to understand that we are as important as the person we think is more important than us.

You should never think of yourself as lower than another person because you are selling your identity/uniqueness out when you do that.

"You are also important." 

I believe we should always be telling ourselves that, especially when we find our confidence low, because when you do that, you will be able to stand your ground and withhold your values, no matter how much pressure comes near you.

There will always be pressure on you to change yourself and be like others, but you should always ask yourself if what you are changing for will actually benefit you or slow you down because many people tend to change themselves for the wrong reasons.

Before I end the article, I want to leave you with a question,

"Have you ever changed yourself to meet another person's requirements or to join a group."

Thank you for reading.