Why is it so hard to let go?
They said if you are really meant for each other, you will end up together no matter what happens, no matter what challenges you both encounter and even if you let him go. If you are destined to be together, you will end up being in each other's arms.
You will know if the person genuinely loves you after letting him go he will come rushing back to you and that will be the start of your lifetime journey together. I don't know if it's right to test destiny but what if you let him go and he never comes back? You just wanted to know if he's someone who comes back around. It's so scary to take a risk on something that you already have and then decided to let them go.
So, what if you let him go and he stayed in somebody else's arms? What if the test you made with destiny didn't work out? I think that's scarier. It's scary to think if he would still come back. Would he still want to come back? Or if he will ever wake up one day and realizes that he still loves you a lot.
It would be very difficult because both of you have been through so many ups and downs and it's already been a long time that you both spent together that you get used to each other's presence in everything. Would you still decide to let him go? You both surpassed life challenges that almost made you give up on each other but you both promised to work it out and solve the problem. Remember the moment that you do just to get closer to him, to be with the one you love, and then you're just going to let the person go? Are you just gonna tolerate the pain?
So, why is it so difficult to let go?
Because you made effort to have that person. You were there first. You were chosen first. You were the one who was with him thru thick and thin. And then there comes one person who will try to break you apart and demolish the love you have for each other. Someone whose main goal is to break you apart.
Have you heard of this saying that goes, you cooked for the food but somebody ate it? It was you who built an empire of trust in the relationship and then all of a sudden, it will all be gone. But, the most difficult thing to happen, is when you have to choose. Will you still hold on even if he rejects you already, or will you let go even if you still love him?
It's so difficult to let go of someone who gave you so much to remember but what else can you do if the other person doesn't like to stay anymore? There will be a lot of what if's and could've been in your heart but just set them aside it won't help anymore to let him come back to you.
Some people choose to fight even though they knew already that they are fighting a losing battle. They will endure everything than lose that something they worked hard for. It is too tiring to be in a relationship where only one who's trying to make everything work out, understand every situation, and fight for the relationship. It's too riding to fight and save the relationship when he has already found another love. Mostly, you will choose to let go not because your love has lost its value but because you need to be free. To be free from the pain you felt in your heart, the stress in your mind, and the body pains you felt in your relationship.
You need to let go because of yourself, and this time, you will choose yourself first over anything. There are many reasons why letting go is a hard thing to do but, when you know it in yourself, you will realize in yourself that letting go means having freedom. It is scary and painful but you need to.
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I miss you all 😊
Letting go is indeed really hard, most specially if the person that you're going to lose was the person who makes your life complete.