True colors shining through!

March 6, 2022

In Zhyne's article she mentioned about her good and bad side and that her treatment of other people depends on how they treat her. It is like what you give is what you get. You'll show me good, I'll show you better. You'll show me bad, I'll show you even worse.

Most of us have that principle too. Being Filipino by heart, we have this the attitude that never backs out whenever someone has done wrong at us. We would alway fight for our rights and our principles. We wouldn't want to be just trampled on the ground.

When we are in a situation that lets us show our beast mode, people from the other side would always say that we are now showing our true colors. Our enemies and haters would even sing the lyrics, " I see your true colors shining through". It must be uncomfortable to hear these words from your haters and enemies. Why would we always brand the worse side of people as their true colors. By saying that, we mean that being worse is their nature. It is like we are just so early and it is easy for us to label their bad moods as their true colors. Have you taken into consideration the goodness that they bring? Did they only show you worse all throughout in life? I bet not. I bet there was an instance wherein they are good and nice. There were instances wherein they did great in helping you and that benefits you all too well. So why would we define bad moods and worse sides as people's true colors? A person must not be branded and labeled based on their moods anyway.

Well, the truth of the matter is that you cannot please everyone. The people who hate you will always find fault on you for the rest of their lives. Your goodness will never be enough for them.

I admit I'm one of the people who used to brand people's bad moods and worse attitude as their "true colors" but as time pass by I learned how things are. We can never judge a person using just one scale. It would be unfair for them if you invalidate their good sides just because you've seen the worse. We are entitled with bad days anyway. We all have worse moods and dark sides but they never go out every so often, they would only come out if triggered. Everyday, we strive to be good and spread kindness. But life can never be perfected. People and situation will test you and most often we fall into the trap of showing our dark sides. Well, it is not a crime. We can be whatever we want to be anyway. Nevermind the judgment as they always come hand in hand with the goodness of life.

Aha! I know now. Maybe the reason why we tend to brand other people's bad moods and dark sides as their "true colors" is that we think that they are faking their treatment towards us. We assume that they are just showing the facade. While this is true in some cases, we must also remember to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Believe in the kindness of the people. Never assume that everyone will do bad on you. But never be too complacent too. We have to be smart in dealing with people. Now, it all boils back to how they treat us. If they show you good, show them better. If bad, show them the worse. You can never go wrong with that.

While other people advise to be kind at all times. It would be safe for yourself to discern and guard your heart first. Trusting completely would probably lead you to losing yourself in the end. So for a win-win situation, always reciprocate other people's treatment for you. Before trusting completely, test the waters first.

How about you? What is your take-away?

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