Goodbye is Hard But Necessary

It's heartbreaking when we learn about couples splitting up, of relationships that were once unbreakable now just tearing each party apart. I have learned about Moira and Jason deciding to end their three years of marriage and the entire country is in a slate of bleeding hearts.

Some had voiced out their side and burst their disappointment, some can't help but cry inside, and some even made a comment about their religious beliefs. It's just unbelievable as they are both professing Christians.

I on the other hand see this as a chance for grace. Although it is painful to give it at this moment, in due time, I pray that there will be forgiveness and restoration. It is not impossible.

I reckoned on what had happened to Moira and Jason, comparing it to what my brother has done to his family, to his wife. It is not different. The enemy is indeed just around the corner, waiting to devour us, it is therefore very important that we have accountability as to how our Pastor told us. To have a partner or group in praying for the family, in guiding and advising each of us when we have problems, when we are tempted, when there's a strong force of sin.

The truth is that we are not strong, each of us has weak spots and if we would let the enemy get in and give temptation a chance without running away from it, there's a huge chance of falling into its trap.

Unfortunately in the case of my brother, the pain is just unbearable that my sister-in-law decided to leave the island and try to move on. My brother, although it is painful for me and my family, can no longer do anything but pray for him. We are not giving up on him but we also know that he is a grown-up adult, we can't force him, so we give it to God but we also know that God disciplines His children and so thus the earthly parents. Thus, we are asking lawyers about this case.

Our prayer is that he would one day wake up from the mess he is currently in and realize his sinful actions. As of the moment, my brother seemed very confident that he had chosen the right path. He had been vocal now and very brave about it. He even has the guts to post their photos online where my relatives and our family friends could see, I know people around us are feasting on this family problem and we are the talk of the town.

The testimony that we have been taking care of has crashed down but it is okay. There's a reason behind everything and there's a lesson about why things happen.

Just like Moira and Jason's situation, I am looking into the possibility that one day, everything will be back to the old times. But I pray as well that if that doesn't happen, that if my brother would still harden his heart, that God would give us peace. There's nothing we can do about it. God is the only one who could change hearts.

As mentioned above, my sister-in-law had decided to leave the island and go to Mindanao where her family is based. I tried to place myself in her shoes and I believe that it is indeed the right decision to go to her family and try to compose herself, give herself a chance to breathe, and be happy again.

My brother had caused her so much pain that it is just right for her to give herself a break. My niece and nephew deserve as well a good future and if staying in Bohol is just making them sad, it is not healthy for them to stay.

I also thought about my parents who have been trying their best to fill the shortcomings of my brother in terms of emotional and financial support to the family he had left. I can't imagine the pain that my mother is bearing right now, each and every single time she talks about my brother, she cries and I feel her pain. How does her son, her firstborn, does this thing to his family.

So with a heavy heart, we bid goodbye to our niece and nephew. They traveled to Cebu yesterday then to General Santos today.

I hope that the bond we had shared will not be forgotten and that in time, we will see each other again. We will miss them dearly. Goodbye indeed is hard but this is necessary for their mental health.

It is our prayer that with this step, God will give them the happiness they needed and in due time, we will see the bigger picture. God is a God of restoration so we are still praying that He will do a miracle and He will change the heart of my brother and we hope that it won't take long because life is short.

Thank you for reading this article, my heart is really heavy as I write this. I just have to let go of what's going on in my mind and thank you readcash for being a medium for me to release this feeling.

xoxo,

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