Making myself used to
Paint in your mind that people come and go, and we will never get used to it.
Never in my life I expect people to help me with this and that or whatever, I used to do things on my own, if they will then go, and if they don't then it's fine, asking for a helping hand is not my forte, even my parents would nag because they don't know my whereabouts I'm doing in my life, yes I will spoke to my mom or my sibling my happenings in life yet, I don't really tend to asked for a help even in my homeworks, or money haha I'm not fond of asking my parents money just for my own sake, of course they pay my tuitions and school expenses because they need too and I'm thankful for that but I never asked for them to make me go in school with high maintenence in my senior high school when it comes to tuition. But yeah they want me to go there so I go and I don't mind any school that I'm going the important is I will finish my study there.
So back to the topic,
Asking for help is great of course, from the famous line "No man is an Island" that's why God create another human being so that another one will have accompany,
My own reason why I used to stand on my own, like treating myself as the center and trying so hard not to asked for one's help because I want to make myself used by that.
You know people come and go, even the closest one, even family, of course they still our family, they still our friends, they will still remain who they are in our life but they will go because life has its own limits and that's the painful truth that we will never get used to.
This is just for me ha, it's not that I wrote this because I want to everyone to do it like michael, chozz (the effect of tiktok videos are eating me alive haha) of course this is just my own thoughts about this topic and I won't mind if some will disagree with this, I don't want you to misinterpret me and I won't advice you to do this also,
The reason why I used to be like this, like I don't asked for a help is because I don't want to be a burden, I don't want to rely on the help of others...
When I'm in the middle of my difficulties in life, I tried my best to keep it with myself, and try to survived on my own, I don't seek for anything or anyone, it's hard but it's the best way to trained myself and make myself used to on my own,
In the future when I'm having a hard time and the person that I get used to be with is never there then I will just cave in, stumble and fall because I'm used by the presence of them, my family and friends will not be always in my side, they will also have their own destinations and own issue, that's why I will make used to be independent one, to keep it on myself, it's not healthy yet it's my own comfort, because in the end of the day, You and yourself is the one with you in literal way, ofcourse God is always there.
So instead of asking for someone then I would just think for another way to make it work without seeking a help of course we all need help and I won't mind giving anyone a helping hand, also to recieved one but asking is a very hard for me to do, I will just slump that off and go.
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https://www.pinterest.com/ievgriez/being-a-woman-quotes/
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https://thriveglobal.com/stories/tips-on-how-to-be-a-stronger-and-more-independent-person/amp/
Independence is good, actually, it is nice. But hey, not that I am lecturing you or what, but I just want to remind you that to the people close to you, they will never treat you as a burden. And if your own burden becomes too heavy for you to carry, never hesitate to ask for a helping hand.
You've said it. I know you are fully aware that no man is an island so if that is who you are and that is what you want, I am rooting for you on your independence but never forget that there's no shame in asking for help.
People who loves you will be more than willing to help you and trust me, it is not a burden. You are not a burden.