Three topics I usually avoid in a discussion

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Anyone one of us here loves healthy discussion with our peers or parents or family but there are topics that make it awkward for us and we may find it inappropriate even. And we usually avoid it, because it brings us down, or some of it is really personal that you should just keep it to yourself. 

Here are some of the topics I really avoid discussing and when things are going that way, I easily switch topics.

SALARY

I really don't know why people have to ask about it. 🙈 I'm even more curious as to why they need to know, or would they belittle me or whether that would help them sleep better. You see, asking someone how much their salary is, is a bit too much. It is awkward and it can create jealousy or either mocked you behind your back.

Or even you say to the one you're talking to; please don't tell a soul, words will still flow. Yeah, so it is really better not to talk about it or ask for it. 

My parents asked me about it too, but I didn't tell them. Haha. I mean I'm old enough to handle my money. And it's mine. I work hard for it. I can spend it where I want to spend it or save it for my future. 

How to avoid this kind of conversation? A little tip is to draw them out of the topic. If anyone asks you about it, ask them why they want to know. And ask them too are they willing to tell theirs? If they do. 🤷 Just let them boast and praise their salary. And soon they'll forget to ask yours. Haha. #Lifehacks.

RELATIONSHIP

Hi kamusta ka na? Why are you still single and not yet married? Bakittt? These annoying questions I would always banter with, "Ay di ko alam na required po pala?" 🙂 

Well that was a usual convo when you go home, when you meet different people, they are curious about your status in life and all the why's. I think everybody has a reason why they don't have the same way someone engage in a relationship.

Some people have choices, some people have goals in life, some people just went through a break up, some people are going through the rough phase of their relationship, some people don't see marriage as sacred, and some people just lose the one they love. Its okay if you ask someone of their status but asking why is a different thing. Its a little too insensitive. 

What I learned growing up is to get curious about life 's wonders, not the lives of others. 

So my little tip here, if you are just interested with gossip, please try to avoid this kind of conversation. 

And when you are asked about this question, just shrug it off, and ask why would they want to know? That would shut them up. 

PERSONAL ISSUE and FAMILY RELATED PROBLEM.

I really don't know but I'm usually the type of person who never brought up my own personal issues or problem to just anyone. Or even my parents, I don't come running to them as if my world is crumbling down. I mean, maybe growing up I've already developed the idea that, "No one will catch you when you fall, so don't get trapped". So I'm really cautious of what to share and what not. 

I find it really intriguing how anyone could share their problem so easily, I mean every detail of it, my friend who is talkative is one good example. She had told me her whole life. On my part I could only discuss vague parts of it, especially when I needed to ask for opinions. 

And I'm usually the least talker in the group. So yeah, when someone would point the discussion to me, I feel like I shouldn't be there. So next time, if you hear someone about hearsay issues avoid asking them, you might scare them out. 

I also avoid the discussion about politics and religion, because it is not my area of expertise and it can lead to friends and not friends anymore. 😆 Everybody has different perspective so If you are a bringer of the politics and religion topics, chances are you wouldn't get invited on the next alcohol session or you are getting laugh at. 😄 There are appropriate place and people to discuss with it. 

Anyway, how about you what are the topics you usually try not to get involve into?

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