Unfriended?

Where are your friends at? Are you still friends with the people you met when you were still a kid? How about your bff's in Highschool? And your favorite person to have lunch with in canteen when you were in College? The ones you met in parties and became your best buds, where are they? Are you still in contact with them? If yes, then let's cheers to that! I am genuinely happy for that kind of friendship.

They say we cannot live alone. Do you believe in this famous line too? Personally, I do believe in this. Although I am fine being alone, prolonged isolation bores me and can sometimes trigger my anxiety. My doctor advised me to go out and have fun with friends so I won't think of anything unwanted. I also need people to talk with most of the time because if not, I would end up bottling my problems and frustrations which is not healthy for my mental state and I am sure for you too.

Because of these reasons, I became so close with my friends. Well, I have few best friends but we seldom connect when we were in College already. This pandemic time, I make sure to divert my attention into something that can make me happy and busy. This pandemic also brings me closer to few people I am not so close with and lets me know new people who became a big part of my life today. However, I also lose some of my friends while gaining other folks. I guess it's true that in our circle of friends, there are people who don't like you at all but they're just faking that they do. They are just waiting for the right timing to reveal the hidden agenda.

Unfriended

One of my close friends, my gimik buddy unfriended me on Facebook and in real life as well. It's a long story though but to make it short, it's all about her being envy. Envy not in the sense that she's envy because I am so pretty and rich. It's all about being left behind which we did not notice that she was really left behind but I didn't think that she will hate me just because she's not around when our friends gather together. I guess I had a mistake too because I also forgot to invite her. Her being left behind and not being informed whenever we go road tripping and partying happened twice. I and the rest of our friends were unaware too so we were shocked when she chatted one of our friends about me. She wrote there that I was just using the one who would always spend when we were out and that I am just after of the money, drinks and party. That friend she chatted forwarded the message to me, covering the name but I already knew who was it because of the way of typing. I did not asked why. I immediately confronted her and ended the conversation. After that, she left the group chat and unfriended me. But even though she unfriended me, for me she's still a friend but my trust in her will not be as the same as before. Imagine we were friends since Elementary and until we graduated College but she trade the friendship for hate. How sad.

There were also childhood friends that remained as just childhood friends because we are not friends with them today. Lol. This happens maybe because they transfer to another city and we lost contact with them or they just changed because they went to another school and so they forgot about us. I have a lot of friends that fall in this category.

Another example are the friends who unfriended you because you can't or won't keep up with the trend just as they do. For instance, they like to post/show everything they do on social media but you aren't. They might call you kj or killjoy and they won't invite you anymore during the next escapade because they knew you don't like to be photographed like models wearing bikinis. Funny, right? But this happens especially to the genzers (some).

Actually there are a lot but I need to end with this last example because my baby might wake up in any minute from now. Mommy duties again!

Last example are the kind of drunkard friends (mga palahubog/lassingero) who unfriended you because you don't drink alcohol and so you won't have that kind of jam with them. I am guilty of this because I have unfriended a classmate in highschool who came to my birthday party and did not drink with us. I already told everyone in our class that I will not be having foods on my birthday because no one will prepare it for me. My grandma was working in Cebu that time so she just sent me money and it's up to me on how will I spent it on my birthday. I decided to just have drinks with my close friends/classmates. The rest asked me if I will be having foods and I said no, just drinks but they still come so meaning, they want to drink too. But this one friend refused so I was annoyed for I will not be enjoyed completely when there's someone who's not enjoying too. I unfriended her after my birthday. Lol.

Now that I am matured (I think), those friends who unfriended me are still my friends. They are still welcome because I know I will not be completely happy if I have anger to someone. And those friends who I unfriended are now my friends again. I choose my peace of mind. Let's be happy.

How about you?

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