Do You Tell Your Friends The Bitter Truth
How many people around you can tell you the truth however it may be, I'm not taking about the insensitive friends, I'm talking on those who would tell you how a matter is and make you see things from a different angle you originally weren't seeing. I feel we all need truthful guys around us, we need truth to set us free, we need truth to move ahead in life and many a times the truth to uncover a particular notion or event might just be with a friend, would they be kind enough to call your attention to it, or would they just ignore, moreover it's not their life, so why should they be so bothered about.
If you friend was to get married to a guy or lady whom you know to not living a committed life, would you at least try to know that your friend is aware or you just let them jump in. What would a parent or family do? They have no reason to see you destroyed, they are aware that your rising is also their rising as you all are bounded by love, so they can't see you destroy that future you've all been building for the longest time coming because of someone else, because of love, no way they would try their best to alert you or likely spoil such union. So why is your friend keeping silent about it.
My issues with friends that don't rescue their friends with the truth is much later when the truth has unfolded under natural circumstances, then you'll see them come out to say their bid, probably start spilling their experiences to try and advice, it's so painful. As much as I understand that sometimes it could be them scared of how their friends response would be, sometimes they aren't sure so they just discard, however no matter what as a friend make attempt to rescue a friend with the truth, if you aren't sure then try to confirm, don't just fold hands.
Opinions however isn't necessary to talk about, as its uncertain and just a hunch, however if such opinions are quite convincing, probably based on past similar expectations, then it can be chipped in but as friendly and harmless as possible, there's nothing wrong with advising and discussing matters with your friend, no one knows anything for certain, as humans we are all blinded to the future, we are only aware there's a possibility for the next day however what it holds, none can say. So chat your convincing opinion on the table at least there's something to learn from it.
Those blunt truthful friends are annoying, yes they sometimes speak with so much confidence so yes they can be very annoying, yet very essential in everyone's life, they are not afraid of us and so they can say it just the way it is, you can do what you wish with the information. Well I feel that is part of the definition of friendship, two people not scared of each other, they are open and free to each other attention and desires, so yes they should be able to tell you the bitter truth in the best possible way to get you understanding it.
Just as your long time friend should know the class and spec of a lady or guy you admire, there are more things they know about you also, things like how to pass down an information to you well enough to get your attention and get you acting on it. So should a need arise when someone need to talk you out of a place or someone you already made up your mind about, people can be rest assured that your friend would pass it down across in the best possible way. Most times we've seen family taking more action than talking, but a friend would do more of the talking than actions, so friends are best in resolution but among our friends we are need the blunt straightforward friend.
Individually we should see the importance of taking our friends out of harm's way whether it affects us or not, the definition of true friendship is revolving around love and helping together, so whoever we claim to be friends with we have an obligation to love and help them. However be emotionally intelligent to follow the best approach to suit the person in question., who best but our friend and family who are not scared of us rather love us so much to see us harmed or disappointed, it doesn't matter how bitter and embarrassing the truth is, they would find a way to tell you.
I'm grateful to everyone reading this article, I say a big thank you, let's all learn to say the truth and set our friends and family free.
I also have a friend who calls my attention to everything going on in my life. She's so blunt and can be very annoying but those yelling has helped me to become a better person on earth. Friends like that are a blessing to individuals. May God bless every one of them. And God bless you too.