Bouncing Back From Rejection
You can possibly imagine how depressed I felt, how less I though they think of me. Rejection often messes with ones mind. The worst feeling is when you're rejected cause someone else wants to be accepted, just then we begin to evaluate ourselves trying to think of the best possible reason why we aren't selected. Do we know how to bounce off from this kind of intimidation and depression, how much of ourselves do we know and believe. That moment of rejection is the exact moment we should start reassuring ourselves to motivation, rejection has gotten people all around the world to believe there aren't that worth it.
Luckily for the male gender, life has helped us to be able to deal with these more easily than the females, a typical Male is prone to being rejected, many of which has been rejected already more than once, although there are other aspects of rejection that don't necessarily entails trying to get a female for a partner, but this area of trying to get a girl to like you has an effect on the other areas. When one girl doesn't accept our plea to date us or become close to us, it really hurts but soon we see another girl and the craving comes to talk to her and we easily forget the previous girl who rejected our offer. Really in a way experiences can help us deal with situations better.
A man because he has experienced rejection from a female and has bounce from successfully and presently with someone he loves and loves him in return, he would most likely accept the rejections from a job offer not gotten, or a disappointment. Same way he said to himself before, I don't mind, I know I'm enough and I'll get a girl soon, same way he would say to himself " I don't mind and I'll get a job soon" or even "I don't mind I know I'm enough and all would soon be well" such believe systems are good and can mostly be found in men, not because they were born that way but because experiences has taught them, that's why its advices that people take risk.
Risk has one good side, as long as it's a calculated risk with a bearable possible loss then it is ok to try, but if the loss is going to be unbearable and the deal is under probability, a 50-50 chance, then it really isn't ideal to try it out. So let's say its the first instance of the risk being of bearable loss and well calculated at least, then it has a positive effect of building our minds to accepting the worst yet moving on without allowing it weigh us down, this would pay off overtime, especially when you have to teach people how to bear losses and keep being effective after many times of being trying and rejected.
Don't get me wrong when I say men can deal with it more, of course some women are stronger and emotionally mature to accept whatever comes, the gender isn't the main factor, the main factor is experiences and how often one is willing to try again. However it's no jokes that ladies do have their way most times more than men do. People are naturally just soft to pleasing a womans need especially when she's attractive, but the moment that woman faces rejection, her body system changes and she's pissed off. It doesn't happen everyday so when that rejection happens it becomes a big deal, all hell might break loose, no wonder most ladies don't know how to take No for an answer.
However it's good we understand life is full of ups and downs, I'm not talking about knowing it's TRUE, I'm taking about understanding its true. Rejections are bound to happen to anyone no matter of ones status in the society. We should know how to receive being rejected yet not backing down on pushing on. I like to see things from a spiritual angel, I do my prayers and I believe God has the best for me, if I try getting something and it seems to keep drifting far away from me, I may just believe it isn't the will of God and I'll try shifting focus, though may keep trying on that every one and then.
Lastly rejection is no yardstick for revenge, people would naturally do what they feel and believe, not necessarily because you're hated or incompetent, so when we hate because we went through rejection, it really isn't nice. Infact holding on to the rejections is the first wrong, we also would reject a lot of people of things. We can't possibly please everyone. The best we can do is to get over it as soon as possible. What is the true definition of who you are? Its simply what your believe you are, humans are not 100% flesh, infant we are more spirits than we are flesh and our spirits are magical beings, not limited not restricted, so you see how wrong we are if we feel bad from rejection.
Never hang on to the thought of being undesirable or unwanted, it's totally wrong, people would always say or do what pleases them and the mood they are in as at the time, we also should think and say to ourselves what we want to feel and believe. Move away from the feeling of rejection, bounce out of it and you'll see how beautiful the other place can be. When we shut one door then we can open another and see what that place has in store for us. Don't be afraid to move on, emotionally bounce away from that rejection.
Thank you everyone for reading through this article, its always a magical experience with you all here. I love you all. Bless.
Well said po! it's about how we react to things around us, cause at the end of the day no matter what happens we are all human, vulnerable, flawed, and imperfect.