In this world, no parent is perfect, because being a parent is not an easy matter. Even though I'm not a parent yet, but I often notice parents who look tired and even stressed in raising or caring for children. Being a parent must be able to beat the ego in yourself. Many things stress parents in educating their children, sometimes children have naughty behavior, fight when advised, etc. So often parents yell at their children in a high tone (angry) so that their children will listen or obey their parents' wishes.
In fact, for children to listen to or obey their parents' words, they only need to be sincerely understood and loved. As a parent, you shouldn't yell or say harsh words in a loud tone. You just need to find out the cause of your child being out of control, try not to be angry, and listen to what they feel. You must realize that parents are protectors of children, not scary monsters.
If you snap too often and scold your child in a harsh tone, then your child's psychology will be disturbed and even depressed. Their positive emotions will be inhibited because children need positive caregivers to enhance the process of positive emotional development as well. So do not be surprised, if children are raised harshly, they will become individuals who are full of pressure.
In addition, they will also feel insecure around their parents. Screaming too often will make children feel threatened so it will be difficult to accept the presence of their parents. It can even destroy a child's self-confidence if they are too angry and say harsh words to them, for example, they will not be able to make decisions on their own because they are afraid.
So, what to do if the child becomes difficult to control? what if the child likes to yell or fight the parent? Do parents have to yell and scold their children again? The answer doesn't have to be. You only need to provide a good and rational understanding and explanation. Then, hug your child, because a hug will relieve the child's anger, your child will be calm by doing this.
So, when you have just become a parent, practice your patience, don't get angry easily, because parents are a place for children to find peace and tranquility. Although many say that children are the prerogative of parents, parents should not do anything arbitrary to children, because it can be a boomerang that will strike back when they are adults. Children are a gift from God that must be taken care of, well cared for, and protected. Maybe that's just a brief explanation that I can write to you, I hope this is useful. Thanks for reading and greetings
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