I can only speak from my experience, so here it goes;
When I graduated high school, my Lola passed away. So I decided not to pursue college and I started working. I lived with my aunt at that time while my 2 sisters lived with my father and stepmother. I was full of resentment towards my father so I'd rather lived with my aunt than lived with them. But now and then, I visit my sisters to make sure that they were okay and gave them money. While living with my aunt, I feel like I was suffocated. So I made a big move and decided to elope with one bag in my hand and some money in my pocket.
I had never lived completely on my own before so I was full of hope and excitement to live alone in a big city. This time, there are no roommates, or even family and friends close by.
I look for a job and luckily landed on a fast-food chain as a service crew. My routine was home-work and work-home. It was hard at first, I need to adjust. So to feel less alone, I got myself a pet, which I found on my way home, a kitten. It helps me tremendously. She was emotionally intuitive and she often comforts me when I'm upset by sitting on my lap and purring. We take care of each other, this helps me feel less "alone." So I guess, that's my first tip, consider getting some sort of pet before you move.
One thing in living alone is you get to develop and nurture the most important relationship in your life, the one with yourself. This, I feel is essential to just exist on this planet, but most importantly, when you are going to be living on your own. However, if you are not in a good place with your mental and physical health, I would strongly urge you to not live alone. This is when you need to lean on the people the most. Don't force anything that feels like it will just cause you to go overboard or be way too stressed out. Live alone when you are ready and when it is safe for you. Of course, you can always call a friend or invite them over for the night, because, yes, nights can be scary living alone. Sometimes I find myself shaking and crying just to hear a loved one's voice or have someone give me a big warm hug. This of course was just my experience with anxiety and depression mixed with living alone. I'm not suggesting it will be this way for everyone, but this is why I would also suggest if you can, find a safe and friendly neighborhood. Develop good relationships with your neighbors if you can. Just smiling at someone and having a silly talk about the weather can help you feel more secure and grounded.
My last tip would be to adopt if you haven't already, a good routine. This will help you more secure and stress-free. Exercise, exercise, exercise! Yes, I feel exercise is vital for everyday well-being, of course, but to also keep a strong healthy vessel so that you can handle being on your own.
So overall, YES, I feel it is worth it to learn to live alone. But let me tell you, it's gonna be rough. No matter which way you slice it. Living on your own, especially when you didn't have the best family life growing up and you weren't given/taught productive and healthy coping skills, is going to be one hell of a ride. But I do think, it's an experience almost everyone should have at least for a year or two.
My personal opinion is that, as humans, we are generally wired to thrive when we live with others who love and care for us. I gave it my best go and I'm stronger and more resilient for it. When living alone, you just learn so much about who you are without all the noise. You learn to love and care for yourself and it strengthens your bond with not only you but the other relationships in your life as well.
Wishing everyone who is living alone a safe 2021. Be safe and stay kind.
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My mother always yelling at me why I prefer to be alone rather than playing or interacting with my friends. My father were angry when he said that I could not live alone without them but I know to myself that I can be alone.