Love is one of the most powerful things in life. It's something unexplainable yet fulfilling. It's what keeps a person going no matter what he is going through.
Life is useless without love and it is what drives a person towards reaching impossibilities.
I have nothing against anyone who loves. I just want to reiterate something important to serve as a reminder and I just want to enlighten those who are confused.
Having a crush and boyfriend/girlfriend is okay. It's not a sin to love someone and to choose to express yourself but there is difference between love and obsession.
Giving your virginity to someone who isn't your spouse is never okay.
Virginity is sacred. It is actually the perfect gift to give to your spouse. It's never true that when a man beds women, they lose nothing. Virginity goes both ways. A man and a woman has it. It's just that women are looked down when they are no longer virgin when a man has sex with her. Women are often measured for what she has to offer.
Committing premarital sex is what causes the unwanted pregnancy. Imagine two teenagers who can't even provide for themselves raising babies in this world. Many of them also opt for the best solution they can think about which is abortion. Yes, it's your body, you have the right to do whatever you want with it but the baby on your womb for your drastic decision also has the right to be born and live in this world.
Teenage pregnancy is rampant. It's the effect of doing what must be done by two people bound by the blessing of God.
Is it worth it for you to live in with someone? Is it worth it to give yourself to your boyfriend/girlfriend without any reassurance of the future?
If your partner really loves you, he wouldn't ask for something so precious to you. If he is man enough, he will ask for your hand and put a ring on your finger before doing what a husband and wife is supposed to do.
I just loved him too much so I gave in to what he wants. If he really loves you, he won't ask for your body. Love isn't just about physical affection. It's more than that.
Know your priorities.
As a student your priority must be about finishing your studies and landing a job. It's okay to have an inspiration but it's never okay to be sidetracked for something you just want.
If ever you date your boyfriend/girlfriend, from whom do you get your money for the bouquet of flowers, chocolates, stuff toys and other stuff you give him/her? Isn't it from your allowance from your parents? I'd you can't provide for it yet then don't commit to something you can't stand for.
Your time as single is way too short compared to the time you have as someone who is in a relationship. Enjoy your life as a teenager and allow yourself to grow in all the aspects of your life.
I know that you can do both your studies and being in a relationship but I would also want you to remember that life isn't just about that. Enjoy your current season so when you're on the next season of your life, you'll be able to do as you please having no regrets for not doing what you must have done in your young age.
Never settle for less.
You are never bound to be in a toxic and unhealthy relationship. You can always break away from it. It's for you to decide.
Leave the table when respect is no longer served. You don't need to keep up with any kind of abuse. If you really love him, your love is supposed to make you better not bitter. He isn't supposed to bind you with an invisible shackles so you can only have him.
He/She must be able to lead you into knowing yourself, growing and he must be man enough to let you have your own circle of friends, have your 'me time', spend time with your family and most importantly he must help you to grow in your career and achieve your dreams and goals in life.
If he can't ask for your hand in marriage and respect you the way you should be treated then it's for you to decide whether to stay or to wait for someone who can give you what you truly deserve.
Live in is never an option.
I don't want to cause any confusion or negativity to anyone. I just want to remind you that you are supposed to live in one home under the blessings of God. It might be too religious or too spiritual for others but one thing I learned in life is that it's never a reassurance for anyone.
Marriage is the key. Now if he can't ask for your hand in marriage before asking you to live in one home, then I don't think that he's worth it. I don't think he'll ask you for marriage just to make fun of you.
Now, if you live in a house together with your partner and you already have your own children then what's next? What's the next step? It is said that marriage is not supposed to be pricy, the number of visitors, venue, food and other stuff are no longer considered practical. What's important is to have a man and a woman who has real faith in God.
You are precious and you are always worth it. I hope you always remember that.
Love should make you better.
Love isn't just about the highs and lows of life. Are you growing? Are you the better version of yourself now that you are in a relationship with someone? Are you able to sleep at night with no worries?
Love should bring out the best in you. It's supposed to make you unleash your hidden potential and live the way you deserve to be treated. It's not just about having 'I love you's', sweet talks or plans together. It's also about having someone to support you for what you want to achieve in life.
Personal Experience:
I have a friend who is in a 5 year relationship with a man with a self centered mindset and personality. She tried breaking up with him but he went to her house to look for her and threatened her that he will commit suicide if she didn't get back to him. Now, she's troubled to look for ways on how to break away from him.
I have another friend who has a fiancé who keeps her to himself. He can drink and party while she can't. She can't come with us or have friends because he wants her to have only him in her life. The sad thing is that he keeps on cheating on her and she keeps on forgiving him because she said that she loves him and he will eventually change his ways.
The problem with this scenarios is the fact that it's no longer love when you become masochist who stays in a relationship just because you are in love with him and you keep on accepting him no matter what he does against you. It's no longer love that drives then, they lost their self-respect and self-love. They are now bound to an unending worry and uncertainty.
I hope that you find someone who will value and love you. I also hope that if you're currently broken, you find peace and healing so you'll be prepared to love again.
Love_16
February 28, 2021
Sunday
A very good advice for the young ones