First and foremost, I'm not against about wedding and I didn't stop any wedding. Why I came up with the title? because I have witnessed a supposedly precious moment but felt like not. If you have some thoughts and opinions about this issue, then let me know on the comment section.
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Last Saturday, I attended the wedding in one of my boy bestfriend. I'm actually confused about his wedding, as 2 weeks before that special day, he just sent in our GC, a message saying "you are all invited in my wedding, just for those who want to attend" then no more. Then we was like, excuse me, when, where, how and what LOL. Another is in his myday stories, I am not active in social media, but I can see his Myday because he is in the top of my featured stories; then it was all about sad things, like sometimes crying emojis. Lastly, the day before his wedding, I asked him where is the exact location of the church, then he just only replied "I'm having a fever bestfriend, just chat you at night." So what I did, is I chat my other friendship and asked, "does he forced to married?".
Fast forward..
We finally reached the church, it's a mass wedding. Then after, we need to go in their reception; the girl's house. We are in the car, 4 of us in the backseat, then the one who is driving is their family friend, while the other seat in front is my bestfriend's mother.
"It's done Tita," said by my gay bestfriend
"Yes, I have nothing to do with it"
"Of course you have nothing to do now, your son already signed their marriage contract. Earlier, the priest asked if who wants to stop the wedding, why you didn't stand up? It's 3 minutes of waiting, a chance to stop the wedding but you didn't", said by the one who is driving
So I asked my gay bestfriend if he was forced to get married, and he replied. "Yeah, just like that. It's a very long long story."
Then we found out that it's not their will to marry at that time, that early. Although they love each other, but because of forced marriage, we cannot see the love anymore. Actually the couple are having poker face, and when my bestfriend saw us in the wedding, he have teary eye. Like wait, are you more happy to see us than your wedding itself? LOL
Why they forced to married early, was because the girl is already pregnant and the girl's side want them to get married before she give birth. What's the sad thing is, all the decision is in the girls side while all the expenses is in the boy's side.
Why I shared this one is because, I want to remind us that wedding is for lifetime and it's not a joke. If you're in a situation that you get pregnant or you make a girl pregnant, then think multiple times if you want that person to be your partner lifetime. In religious beliefs, just like Christianity, it is better to have a marriage first before having a baby. But since we have the freedom to do and choose what we want, then premarital sex became normal. According to my Psychology teacher, it is okay to do love making even you're just bf-gf, but make sure you only do it with him/her, faithful with your partner; then I was like "wow, oh okay, it's really normal now a days".
Back about marriage, the reason why some of girls force to marry a man is because, they want their baby to have a complete family. But.. Just like what my girl bestfriend did(the one I shared before who get pregnant), she chose not to marry the guy. Although they already broke up when she found out that she's pregnant, she chose not to run after the boy. The boy keeps on asking to get her back, but for her it's enough, she prefer to take care the baby with her own family. Does the baby have a broken family? Ofcourse not, he have a complete, loving and supportive family. Being with someone that you don't love makes your heart broken, worst than broken family.
For parents, grandparents, uncles, aunties, and anyone there, don't force someone to marry please. It's hard and sad for the couples, make them ready, at least they will face God at the front of the altar full of love and joy.
Lastly, wedding is a very important event, especially to woman. For men, if your girl is special to you then make that day special to her. I know not all women wants to have costly wedding, some just want simple, but remember: it is once in a lifetime. Make that day special to her, and she will make your life special every day.
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Author's love message :
Hello lovely reader! How was your day?
Prior to what I shared, I want to give my appreciation for those men who stay besides their partner, who face their obligation with love and dedication. For moms, especially single moms I salute how strong you are, you are blessed with a kid/s, and be a blessing to them.
GOD Bless. Hugs.
December 15, 2021
-Ling
dapat both parties agreed, sis