The Art of Self-love

Self-love is a state of appreciation to yourself. This comes in actions that supports our physical, psychological and spiritual growth as a person we are. It means you love your existence and you have found happiness within yourself. You value your existence in this world. You don't take time to please the others just for them to accept you or who you are as a person. Self-love is knowing your worth and what you deserve. It contributes a great change in our mental health and well being.

Self-love comes in many ways. There are many aspects that determines what a self-love is. You look at yourself with love. You know that every flaws you had doesn't matter and affect you because you learned how to love yourself and you fully embrace it. You learned to sometimes prioritize yourself like choosing what is good and what is bad for you. You do not rush into decisions where you know you are risking yourself. You had learned to trust your own capabilities and you know that you can fully accomplished everything. When you learned to trust yourself, you also learned to adapt in new things. Self-love also means being true to yourself. When you have the couraged and love settled for yourself,you become true to everyone around you without hiding who you are or hiding your true colors. Life is short to hide in different faces, so show who you are because there is no one like you in this world. You chose healthy boundaries like avoiding the toxic people who has done no good for you and chose the people who influenced you to become a better person. Remember that everyone that comes in our life has the impact to change our perspectives without us knowing. So learn to set healthy boundaries if you want to achieve a good life that you always imagined or you always wanted to be. You have to be nice to yourself. It's the best thing you can do, treat yourself properly. Do not pressure yourself on towards things that you cannot predict. Stop the overthinking and stop degrading your capabilities, it won't get you way far. That won't help you improve and that would hinder the things you are capable of doing. Self-love also means forgiving yourself for the wrong things you have done. Everyone commit mistakes and as long as you have learned the lesson and asked sincerity from the thing you have done and you really mean it then it's time for you to forgive yourself as well. No one is perfect and you have to remind yourself of that. Forgive yourself and learn the lesson.

Always remember that self-love is accepting yourself and who you are. It means accepting your flaws and imperfections. You valued yourself and your existence. You remind yourself that failing is not bad and you are a worthy person. It means that even though the world is against with you, you know that you still matter. When you learned to love yourself, the truth that the other people says about you won't even matter anymore because you know yourself better than them. Always remind yourself that no one is perfect and that sometimes the things we always wanted doesn't turned out to be that way. But as long as you have learned to love yourself, your mental wellbeing is safe and protected. We cannot always expect to rely on others. A person who learned to love itself will never need to depend on others to be happy and it is a great feeling to be happy inside without expecting it from someone.

Always remember that self-love is not being SELFISH. It doesn't mean that you have loved yourself then you are becoming selfish. Self-love is loving yourself and not being dependent to your happiness towards the other people. So next time you feel that you are not doing good enough, just always remember that you are still worthy and valuable.