Why Premarital sex is okay? Lazysnail's perspective
The issue about Premarital sex is a discussion that doesn't ended. For everyone has their own opinions, views and perspectives on this one. Some of you may agree that sex before marriage is okay and people contradict and saying that it is a sin and to some culture it is a taboo or bad thing to perform premarital sex. I, your lazy writer lazysnail agree that this type of doings is okay and not bad at all.
Though it's not a timely topic to be discussed it is still important to make everyone aware about this issues. So first let me gave awareness about what premarital sex is. Premarital sex from it's words pre means before and marital means married and sex itself. Premarital sex is a type of activities that both partner perform sexual intercourse even though they're not married or not yet married. So is premarital really that bad thing to do? Some arguments that people might throw at me are to make me believe that Premarital sex is bad are: minor people age 18 below might do it, their religions says it is bad and that contraceptive is not 100 percent effective and that it might lead to a baby. I'll try to make an article regarding that one tomorrow but for now let's talk about why for me premarital sex is okay.
For me premarital sex is okay when the conditions where met, before, during and after performing this act. So here's the condition for me:
Both are educated about sex
Both party first should know what sex is. Why are they going to perform it, and what are the possible outcome of this thing. Being educated about sex doesn't mean you'll gonna do it all the time, but will gonna make you knowledgeable, prepared and safe from some disease that might get in premarital sex. Also being educated about Premarital sex can prevent unexpected pregnancy.
2. Both have Birth control
As I said on top, being educated might prevent unexpected pregnancy. Sex is not all about making a babies and adding life to this world. Sex can be done for the reason of pleasure alone and that's okay. When you're not yet married and doesn't want a baby yet then gave birth control.
3. Both are matured enough
Both party should know what they're doing In the first place. Even a 16 years old could perform sex with his partner (well that's if his partner is is not above 18 because that will be illegal) there are 16 years old might be more matured than some 20 years old in there thats why aged is not a good standard about this one.
4 honesty and respect should be present
Communication, honesty and respect make sexual relationships better. Asking for and obtaining consent shows respect for yourself and your partner. It eliminates the entitlement that one partner might feel over the other. Neither your body nor your sexuality belongs to someone else.
5. There should be a consent
Last but not the least and one of the most important part is the consent. Consent from both side is important because that will fall into rape or sexual assualt if other party doesn't agree on doing it.
LOVEEEEE
LOVE IS the most important condition to be met to perform Premarital sex. Both party should be committed to each other, love the at no cost and will do anything to stay with them until their last breath if this is not present then I immediately disagree in premarital sex even if the first 5 condition were met.
Sexual morality is not about doing is before marriage but about using sex responsibly and respecting your partner. People might shame someone because he or she is not virgin yet is not married but for me there's nothing wrong of being not virgin or what. There is no shame for performing sex for pleasure or mutual love. And it is okay to have sex with your partner for the pleasure and not for the baby. Let me give you a different scenarios. People love to eat a lot but they don't wanted to be fat or be sick of UTI.
Marriage for me is just a piece of paper and traditions that binds both partner. If you're commited and love your partner then be committed to it.
People are free to do anything they wanted to do as long as they're happy, willing to do it, they don't break any government laws and lastly is when they don't hurt anyone else.
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PS. I haven't experienced this kind of thing yupp still haven't but still that doesn't affect my opinion. I mean, I am an open minded person and before I judge I usually look at both side first and so I conclude that premarital sex is not bad but actually healthy if you perform safe sex.
This article is not made to tolerate everyone to do such thing, I'm just sharing my opinion about the certain topic and maybe educate some readers here about the issue.
Ok bb