A recipe for making perfect children (Lead by example)

The path of life begins with our birth. We are innocent children. We know nothing in life except what our parents teach us. We grow up and wonder if my parents taught me everything I needed in life? I went through a lot of pain until I learned things on my own that my parents didn't tell me about, if they did, things would have been simpler and less complicated.

Then we start thinking that when I become a father or mother, I will raise my children and teach them everything they need. I want to make them a better life than mine. I want them to be perfect children! And with the birth of your child, you begin to give him orders and instructions to become a perfect person who does not make mistakes, does not get into trouble, does not take risks and lives safely by your side.

But is this the right thing to do? To create a child who only lives by orders? He has no curiosity to explore and learn on his own! Not to try something and learn from his mistakes!

You will justify it that you do not want him to suffer as you did, and you do not want him to learn the hard way. You are enlightened by directing him and keeping him away from new unsafe experiences. You prevent him from smoking and tell him its harm, but he sees you in the evening next to a cup of coffee smoking a cigarette! You ask him to drive carefully and to always wear a seat belt, but he sees you when you go out fast, you drive fast if you are late and forget to put the seat belt! You ask him not to stay up late and come back early, but he wakes up to the sound of your footsteps and you sneak into the house after midnight!

Do you think that your child or teenager who does not act exactly the opposite of what you tell him to act will abide by your orders that you do not comply with!

No dear, he won't. Not because he wants to rebel against you, not at all. Rather, because in the eyes of each person, his parents are the best of all and they are his role models and he wants to become like them. So if you want your child to be the best version of himself, you have to be the best version of yourself.

You need to teach your child to do the right things by first watching you do them. You should lead by example, not by orders and exhortations.

You want your child to make his bed when he wakes up, he should see you making your bed, you want him not to scream or use profanity, you should speak quietly in front of him, not scream at him not to scream. You want him to stick to his school time and do his duties, you have to abide by your duties and work. You want him energetic Be energetic, you want him polite Be polite, you want him intelligent and caring Give him your time Talk to him Teach him that the best way to get something is to do it right.

Be a good role model, make your actions a mirror of what you want to see in your children, do not scold them, talk to them. Don't give orders for them to carry out, but do in front of them what you want them to do, and stay away from what you want them to avoid.

Make your actions a teacher for your children, not your words.

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I want to thank my dear ones @Theblackdoll @Talecharm for renewing the care, despite my constant absence, they did not lose hope in me