Can exes be friends?

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4 years ago

There are some very strong and socially supported reasons why couples often try to be friends.

Even though the person being kindly - refuses, the promise of friendship can feel like an emotionally reassuring consolation reward.

We will no longer be allowed to share their beds, have children with them, or end our days in their company, but at least something can be saved from the ashes: we can call them whenever we want, share our fears and go to the movies together.

No matter how well you do it, the promise of friendship is just as attractive to those who make it.

We may want to get rid of our partner, but in that sense we are not lacking in emotion. As we can tell in a sentimental moment, we love to be the source soon.

We don't want to end our time on Earth with them. I don't even want to deny all the sexual possibilities of his name.

Furthermore, we are deeply obsessed with the idea that we are not monsters. And, as we know, nice people constantly attempt to make friends with their exes.

The arguments may sound wise, but at close range they are deeply tense and, in their own way, spell disaster for both parties.

For the rejected party, moving from lover to friend is a forever humiliating emotion. Every other Thursday is a fall, to say the least, for a lifetime of food for the common future.

Worse still, the hope of seeing the past is a guarantee of resurrection and further insults. You don't get a friend, you are the victim of immoral violence.

As a presenter, the ex is a constant reminder of guilt and cruelty. You can’t even relax to be kind, not to fall into their intentions by mistake, and after a few drinks they start to cry or try to take your hand.

The idea of trying to be friends is the best part of a relationship that has been heavily invested by two people.

The two lovers cannot, it is believed, simply disappear from each other's lives after all this; A friendship is invited to commemorate an episode of real importance.

But more controversially, friendship has no real meaning for love.

An old friendship brings the memory of this relationship to its peak and there is the virtue of deep friendship between the two.

It is a good relationship of betrayal with everything at once and a little bit on the ideals of friendship, which should not be in a more passionate position than the remnants of the other.

What we change with love is not friendship but a condition of greater honesty: a humble distance.

It is also a real assurance that the relationship, in its best and lasting light, is always in the right place, which it can always do safely: memory.


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Except the love was not real or somebody is pretending, lovers should not go back to being just friends. The hurt will continue to be there

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4 years ago

I think it's hard for ex lovers to become friends especially if their relationship is somewhat deep and real. Though it is possible that exes can be friends, i think their friendship will not be the same like the first time.

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4 years ago

we change with love is not friendship but a condition of greater honesty: a humble distance.

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4 years ago

The irony is that most people think it's impossible. But it's surprisingly through and infact okay cos they don't have to hate themselves over a failed relationship. Not unless they actually hated themselves.

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4 years ago

It's depends on you become friend on your ex. If you're already move on, why not?

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4 years ago

hae hote pare karon alr ex o amr friend now 😁

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4 years ago

Don't understand please english only.

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4 years ago

Ah the eternal dilemma. We are going to step out for a little of our role as crypto currency experts (or so say some) to say human relationships were a lot easier when we were cavemen (and women, of course). Now society has evolved a lot but our primate instincts are pretty much all there. Anyway for the ones of you who tried, you know is humiliating, sad and a consolation prize when most. But given some time (year or more) you can be fiend with your ex, just not close friends.

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4 years ago

Of course. Close friends are friends are different to each other.

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4 years ago

Of course, exes can be friends.. But the process depends on how the two parted their ways..

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4 years ago

Yes, but other people treat their ex as stranger coz they dont want to be friends with them.

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4 years ago

That is because their breakup is too painful I guess.. Or maybe they don't want to remember those bad memories with their exes and just want to move on

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4 years ago

Or maybe thy are immature?

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4 years ago

Maybe. We don't think alike. We all have our own preferences

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4 years ago

Lucky im inlove with my bestfriend

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4 years ago

Is this a song? Just kidding.

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4 years ago

Well I'd say exes that are friends can actually keep it at just "friends" if some measures are taken. Exes that later became friends, sees each other often, gists, visits for the weekend and all are no more exes/friends actually if you ask meπŸ˜‚

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4 years ago

For me it a No. You can still be a Mag kakilala and sometime magkamustahan but not to the point like friends who still hang up to each others place or eat together or drink together like that.

I have 5 exes. All of them are still my friends on FC. We are on good terms after the break up but it ends there. No hard feelings but not as friends hehe.

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4 years ago

I don't blame you. Sabagay, iba iba naman po ang tao eh. Sa iba, hindi pwede maging friends ang exes katulad nyo po, pero para sa iba pwede naman kasi they treasure them at yung mga pinagsamahan ay masasayang.

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I thinknyou can still be friends with your exes. I did that with them but in the end they just disappeared on me. It does dependnon how the break up happened too. I mean, if it was on bad terms or if the relationship was toxic, i don't think they should then there's also the case where you're both already seeing pther people but then when you both decided to be friends, it would be bad for your current partners who might get worried or paranoid

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Yes, that's why the other people chose not to friends and treat their exes as strangers. In some cases, your current partner will hurt or got jealous, and then you start fighting and the issue was repeat at all times when you fight even exes was not involved and in the end, boom! Your relationship was end. So, i understand the people don't want to be friends with their exes.

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Yup. Specially if the current partner is a bit hard headed and won't believe in the past is past thing. But if in a sense that the break up was fine, it's so easy to stay friends with exes

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