This is the final part of the article I published yesterday, I couldn't complete it yesterday because I noticed it was getting too long, so I had to cut it in half 😆 (read it here; sometimes it's good to be stubborn).
Like I said yesterday, stubbornness is having or showing dogged determination not to change one's attitude or position on something, especially in spite of good arguments or reasons to do so. (According to oxford languages).
Sometimes, you will be faced with a situation where someone will say you're stubborn, simply because you refuse to play by their rules and not take their advice, my parents did that to me a lot when I was still a kid, but my stubbornness finally paid off on some matters.
Take for example, my mom forbade me from slim-fitting my school uniform and my other clothes as well, she always wanted me to wear them baggy without any amendment and I seriously hated it, I got laughed at a lot because of it and it did a number on my self-esteem 😆.
But I started growing some backbones later on when I got a friend who is a tailor and he was willing to slim-fit my clothes for me free of charge, so I started doing that and my mom wasn't pleased. Anytime I slim-fit my clothes and she gets a hold of them, she uses a blade to undo the whole thing and return them to their original baggy form.
But remember I said my friend was doing it for free? So the battle started! 😀 Anytime my mom loosed any of my clothes, I take them back to my friend and he slim-fit them again, I was unrelenting and determined. I guess my mom noticed I wasn't going to back down so she backed off.
The same thing happened between my dad and me when it comes to the type of hairstyle I can keep, he usually prefers I shaved all hair off my head and I played by his rules until I got to my teenage years and decided enough is enough.
One day, I went to the barbershop and picked another hairstyle that I liked. I got home that day and my dad ordered me to go and cut the whole thing off, saying he won't waste his money for such nonsense. Initially, I didn't budge, but my mom pleaded with me that I should do as he says because he was the one that paid for the haircut, so I figured that was the problem; he paid for it!
So I remedied the situation, I got a job and started paying for my haircut 😂 I came back one day with the same hairstyle as before and my dad was about to rain down fire and brimstone then I reminded him that he didn't pay for it, I did. He wasn't happy about it but I held my ground. After a while he no longer bothered about my hairstyles, as long as it's not bushy then he is fine with it.
These two short stories are some of the scenarios where my stubbornness led to me ending up with a happy result. If I hadn't insisted on doing things my way, maybe right now I will just be an unhappy human with baggy clothes and a bad haircut 😂
One thing I have noticed with most people is that they like it when someone does everything they suggest, they like blind loyalty and prefer someone that won't question orders. They tend to walk over you when they notice you're a person like that, you will become a puppet that they can bend to their will.
But there's also a bad side of stubbornness, that's the one that comes with people doing the wrong thing. Sometimes, other people see something which a person isn't seeing and will advise him/her not to go down that path, but the person refuses because they see nothing wrong with their decision.
In that case, the only way the person will know if he/she made the right decision is when they see the result of their actions, if it worked out well the way they wanted and they are happy with the results, then it's a probably a good thing but if it backfires and they get themselves and other people hurt in the process, then it's a bad call. But in both cases, they would have learned a lesson from them.
Should we now say stubbornness is a good thing or is it bad? I think it's neutral, it is somewhere in between and we will never know until we have seen the result of being stubborn and sticking to our decision. If you are happy with the results, then it's a good thing but if you end up with regrets, then you know your answer 😉
Thanks for reading 💖💖💖
Friday February 4th, 2022
The end result always determines the quality of the decision that lead to the result in the first place. If we make a decision that yields bad result, it becomes a bad decision, if it yields good result it is a good decision