The Inflicted Damage of 'Words'

I am happily watching videos on Tiktok yesterday night before I sleep when I saw the video of a girl crying while having a heated conversation with his father and when I decided to watch it, I became sad and disappointed with her dad. The conversation goes like this...

Father: " Pinagsisisihan kong dumating kayo sa buhay ko! "

—" I regret having you in my life! "

Daughter: " Pinagsisisihan kong naging ama rin kita! Bakit? Ginusto ko bang ipanganak? Ginusto ko bang mabuhay ako? "

—" I also regret that you became my father! Why? Did I wish to be born? Did I wish to live?"

Listening to what her father said pains me as a child. Imagine if you are the daughter in the video, for sure it will hurt a lot. Nothing can compare to the pain you were about to experience if you manage to hear those painful words coming from your parent's mouths. It's like you were stabbed multiple times in your heart that causes it to break or perhaps you will just feel numbed because of the pain. The persons we thought to protect us, we thought who can understand us is the very first person to hurt us. And that is absolutely a fact in many scenarios. We all know that there are families and households, that we can't call home.

MY VIEWPOINT & REACTION

Remember that we 'your childrens' didn't ask you 'our parents' to be born in this world. You're the one who decided to have a child, not ours. So it's your responsibility to take care of us. If you will just say that you will regret having us in your lives in the future then maybe you should not plan to have a child in the first place. Having a child is a lifetime responsibility, it's a lifetime commitment, and not easy as you think it is. Think first if you are ready to be a parent, think first if you are ready to carry on another responsibility, and think first if you know to yourself that you will be a good and responsible parent to your children.

"All children deserve a parent but not all parents deserve a child" — crdts

I admired how the daughter in the video manage to defend herself. I didn't mean that it's fine to talk back to your parents. What I mean is that the girl put up her courage to talk back because she knows that her father already crossed the line. We all know that here in the Philippines, once you answered back your parents even though they aren't right you are already considered as 'bastos' or rude, and even 'Hindi marunong tumanaw ng utang na loob' or ungrateful. Be reminded that some children talk back not because they are not respecting their parents, it is because they want to defend themselves from the words their parents are throwing at them and they want you to listen to their sides. Not because you are older than us means you are right all the time, you can still make a mistake and learn from it afterward.

To the parents out there, please learn to listen to your children's side. Not because we talk back means we are disrespecting you as our parents.

CLOSING THOUGHTS

I believe that the words we throw at people can be lethal, maybe for us, it is just pure words, jokes, and insults, but for some? It carries a big impact on their mental well-being.

A single word can build or destroy a person that's why be reminded to choose what's coming out of our mouths. Words are easy to say but once it causes damage? It is impossible to get back.

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