Is it Time for you to Cut Ties?

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2 years ago

Our friends in elementary, high school, and college may change in the future. We may be friends in the past or the present, but we can't guarantee that we are still friends with them in the future. Everything can turn upside down and our connection to our friends can fall apart because of changing attitudes, beliefs, values, dreams, and goals caused by different environments and people that surround us.

It's really hard to cut our ties to someone who became a part of our lives. No matter if it is our family, relatives, and even closest companions. But even though it's hard we should know when to leave the table and cut our ties if there are clear signs of red flags and toxicity.

Here are some of the signs to know if it's the right time to cut your ties with your friends...

They Aren't There for You

It is normal for our friends to be unavailable sometimes because their world is not only circulating on us but if they are unavailable every time you needed them, then maybe something is wrong. Imagine, if they need someone to talk about their rants or problems in life you are always there to listen to them. But whenever you're the one who is asking for someone to listen, none of them care to reach out to you.

In friendships, give and take is one of the important components of having a healthy relationship. It's not good that only one person puts in too much effort, everyone should also play their part. If you encountered this, then this is one of the clues to think if you are in the right circle.

Your Friends Talk About you Behind your Back

It is normal to have misunderstandings in our friendships, which is common in all types of relationships. The only thing that is not normal is to talk about your issues badly with other people when you are not around. If they are genuine, they will come to you personally and ask to talk about your issues and misunderstandings to clear things out and not the other way around. True friends can be frank with you, but fake friends have no courage to face you.

They Want you to be Someone Else

You know peer pressure right? And its possible impacts on every individual? If you didn't know what is peer pressure is, here's a brief explanation about it.

What is Peer Pressure?

"Peer pressure is the influence wielded by people within the same social group. It is also the term used to describe the effect this influence has on a person to conform to be accepted by the group."

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This is one example of peer pressure when it comes to friendships. Our friends should be the ones that encourage us to show our authentic selves without minding other people's perceptions and not encouraging us to be someone else just to fit in so-called friendship. If your friends pressure you to do things that are not comfortable for you or to hold beliefs they believe in even if it's not right for you, then it's time for you to consider cutting your ties with them.

Do you encounter any of this in your circles? If yes, ask yourself. Is it time for you to cut ties?


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2 years ago

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Yeah, I've seen a lot like those. I don't really have a lot friends though. I have trust issues, so I am just keeping my circle very small. Nice to meet you, Khairro!

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2 years ago

I didn't cut ties with them like I will tell them that I will not talk to them anymore. Its just a matter of time. True friends will stay at all cost.

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2 years ago

Tru, malalaman mo ang mga totoo mong kaibigan kung sino ang nagstay sayo despite sa mga flaws and problems mo sa buhay

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2 years ago

I am not sure if there are not-so-close friends talking behind my back haha. But I am sure that once I've shared my secrets to them, they will spread it with their other friends.(as what they are doing with others, they share it with me haha) That is why in the first place, there are no strong ties between us which can easily cut on its own as time goes by. Better to have one true friend.

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2 years ago

Kayaa nga eh, minsan mas okay na talaga yung onti lang yung circle mo as long as you know na talagang trustworthy

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2 years ago

I have friends way back high school who always talked behind my back. I already blocked them all in my social media. Back stabbers are like poison that can kill you little by little especially if you have low self-esteem and confidence.

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2 years ago

Mas maganda na habang maaga pinutol na agad ang ugnayan. Mas magiging healthy ka pati na rin yung mga taong nakapaligid sayo. We all know our worth that's why filtering people who are coming to our lives is a must

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2 years ago

I hate backstabbers, if i know my friend backstabbing me, no explainations or any drama, Im out...and thats final... no turning back....hehe

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2 years ago

Which is dapat naman talaga AHAHAH. If bibigyan pa ng another chance yan malaki ang posibilidad na gagawin niya ulit. Nagawa niya na nga sa una eh pano pa kaya sa susunod?

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2 years ago

sure yan, at saka yung trust nawala na, kung bibigyan mo pa din ng chance hindi na magiging healthy ang friendship.

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2 years ago