Begging for money to organize a wedding

Hello dear!

Happy weekend! Hope you're doing good? My weekend has been smooth but with a little touch of writer's block, not on this platform but on hive. All the contest I saw there looks challenging to me and my head has been blocked to cook up anything. It's my fault though because I've been doing a lot of comparison, reading other people's work and rating down my capacity. Funny enough, I remember when I picked up the courage to write in a contest and I became the winner. It's my fault for being demotivated via comparison.

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This is going to be more of a random talk but you'll like it.

Thank God for such platform like this where we express our minds on things that are not looking fine to us. Especially for those that don't go out or have physical friends around to gist on some topics.

For two weeks, one of my friends has been preparing for his marriage ceremony, he added us(his friends) to a WhatsApp group and when I first saw the add up, I thought it was a political group, so I didn't bothered to go through messages untill he chatted me to tell me the reason of the group. Honestly, I was glad knowing that he wants to leave the singlehood.

Because he's my friend and we discuss somethings without hidding, so I quickly rushed him with some questions;

Me: It seems you've made money now, show me the way na

Him: My guy, I'm just hustling

Me: Haaa! Hustling? You mean you're now into internet fraud?( Hustling is a common slang used by internet fraudsters to say their work)

Him: No oo! I'm just doing menial jobs and I want to settle down.

I stopped there and didn't want to set in as a discouragement. I Concluded that he has made money or maybe the hustling he's doing can sustain the marriage event, and the family afterwards.

Yes, I was happy and I started planning my schedule to attend because it's an event I can't miss for anything...we are very close friends.

But he came again to my DM saying he's made me admin on the whatsApp group for the sole aim of raising fund to support him. I can't deny the tasks, so I hopped in to do what I understand by "raising funds" to support a friend.

So I was announcing to them about the upcoming event and pleading for a willingly donation to his account number (that's what I understand by raising fund..it must be willingly and not a task nor a force).

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I continued the task and it was not yielding anything and he came to say I should add more force to it and suggested I should give them a minimum fixed amount and a deadline. Jeeeez! I got weakened at this stage. This is more like a force!

This is the point I want to buttress

Just like what I wrote here some days ago about going into marriage without a reasonable finance or a job at hand, i don't see intelligency when people are going into marriage without any good stand of sustainability. Marriage is not all about the event but the journey aftermath.

If one can't cope with the finances of the event, how is he going to cope with the sustenance of the marriage?

I don't have a problem supporting my friend in his marriage ceremony finances, ofcourse I was going to do that even without him asking but what happens after the event? What if he incure some debts from the wedding, that means he'd start sorting debt with his new family immediately.

If he marries and start settling family Bills and couldn't cope anymore, is he going to seek finance from people too? Ofcourse if he does that, people won't find it easy giving him because he's seen as a family man and should be capable of footing his family bills.

There's a lot to consider before going to into Marriage, it shouldn't be rushed into if there's no financial future. Yes , love is the basis but love becomes weak when sustainability is not there.

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This is half fictional but it's happening in our world right now. People needs to be corrected.

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Well, like I always tell people, if you invite me to your church to encourage people on marriage, be sure to loose your members because I like saying how it's happening currently. They should go and make a little Stable stand first before going into marriage to avoid wife leaving the husband because he can't provide for the family.

Thanks for reading

13th August 202